My relationship with my mother: How it actually is (understood by Scripture)

 Many people think parents should be in charge, and that's the end of things, especially as a child or while living under their roof. That's actually not what God intended for the family. My relationship with my mother is largely is obedience in the form of surrender, in the form of listening and admission of sins to a parent.

It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honour thy father and thy mother; That it may be well with thee, and that thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to surrender to parents, meaning secure rest and attachment, as evidenced by the child being able to tell or share anything to parents, even things that society would punish and scorn merely for its existence, with said parent listening and validating concerns and admissions instead of judging. The parent is there to listen, and otherwise remaining silenced and shamefaced, while the child speaks and is free to speak. It is a pro-social cocoon of freedom, with parents as a shelter...I can tell my mother anything, and be believed and validated. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is παρορίζω (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages imposed upon a child from abuse, both short-term and long-term. "Child abuse", as a concept, refers to, at the very least, any behavior by an adult that the child perceives as offensive, alarming, hateful, unsafe, or otherwise uncomfortable. Most children, however, do not want to report their parents for everything, but rather wish to resolve and remediate family conflicts at home and/or with the help and services of a child or family psychologist/counselor. I support this, in fact, but do not advertise this view so not to give the abusers credence. This restorative approach is how I deal with my mother, meaning I simply wish to not have the police involved. Abuse exists in all parent-child relationships, in one context or another. Think a seedy underbelly to an outwardly happy and caring friendship with my mother. If she defends her right to habitually strike or beat me, which she has not, then I'd ask for state intervention. If she'd sexually abuse me, which she has not (she simply sits in the hallway, and for benign reasons - I want to talk, even if the gaslighting tape won't let me), I'd want state intervention as well. There are levels of abuse, and some abuse, even if it is outlawed, should be dealt with within the family unit and/or the mental health system. I, however, believe that this fact should not be widely advertised, in a commonsense manner that brings out the guilty conscience in parents and caregivers who abuse children.

My relationship with my mother is a good one. I can tell her anything, but usually tell her nothing because I don't feel like saying much.

Blake needs to stop calling Adult Protective Services (APS) on my mother. They find nothing, then they are called to swing back to a former friend's house. She shouldn't have to be a punching bag for a "magic wand", the poor girl. People need to stop resenting my mom. She thinks just like YOU. The listening type, The calm type. The real Jessica Lynn Scheibner should the only "Max's mom" that exists to you. All others do not exist. So the other versions are more interesting? Clear them out of your head, because they are false gods of a real person that is my best friend, and most trusted confidant...YOU respect and honor my mother, or get out of everything. Oh, I'm going to stay...and YOU will respect my mother.

She isn't A parent, she is MY parent, meaning MY mother. She's apologized for putting me in time-out and slapping me in the face a few times. Sounds like not much, but it is traumatic. I can't access the anger directly, but indirectly...She was simply struggling.