Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the biblical way of doing time-in

Many parents punish their children, or else ignore them. Most parents abuse their children by use of time-out, with the occasional disciplinary spanking done "out of love". The fact of the matter is that children need time-in, not time-out. Time-in is when parents comfort their children when they are having a hard time. However, there is a right way and a wrong way to do time-in.

Time-in was done in biblical times in the form of mammary closeness. This mammary closeness was a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment ultimately comes from parent submission, where parents submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating them as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers got out the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children.

Time-in has a proper way of being applied. The proper way to apply time-in is through mammary closeness. Mammary closeness is when a child was held close to the bosom of their mother, in skin-on-skin format. Whenever children cried in biblical times, they were cradled in the bosom of mothers. Most mothers were naked in the family home, and children went naked wherever they went, and this made skin-on-skin mammary closeness easy to facilitate. 

Whenever mothers were out and about, they wore their child - under age 6 - in swaddling blankets, in constant skin-on-skin mammary closeness. Mothers tucked the child underneath her loose-fitting dress that resembled an apron. From there, the swaddling blankets were tied to the left breast, then across the dot to the right leg, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. Whenever children cried while nestled in the bosom of mothers, mothers held them much closer, perhaps breastfeeding the child if the child was milk-hungry. The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, which was grown throughout the Ancient Middle East.

Whenever a child cried, mothers cooed at the child, before holding the child to her bosom in skin-on-skin mammary closeness. Cooing was a primal way for mothers to relate to and reassure their children. Cooing helps children fall in line, and automatically leads to children crying silently and quietly, as opposed to a wailing sort of cry. Cooing makes children feel heard and validated.

Nervous about trying mammary closeness with your child as a form of time-in? No need to fear. Whenever you decide to provide your child mammary closeness, you will likely regret not doing it much earlier. Skin-on-skin mammary closeness is the best way to do time-in. 

God gave women bosoms in that shape not primarily for men to sexualize, but instead for a mother to nurture children. In biblical times, children were nurtured by breastfeeding when milk-hungry. This breastfeeding lasted until age 2 in most cases, but in rare cases until age 6 or even older. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand.