Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the best way to do time-in

Most child discipline happens in a certain way in today's society. Time-out, with the occasional disciplinary spanking. Most parents in America presumably use time-out. However, the Bible and its context recommends time-in as opposed to time-out, and recommends it being done a certain way. This certain way is called mammary closeness

Time-in by way of mammary closeness is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word refers to a secure attachment between parents and children. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as they would God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did do wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers got out the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children.

Time-in, in biblical times, was done a certain way. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at the child, before picking up the child and holding the child close to her bosom, in mammary closeness. Mammary closeness is when a child is held close to the bosom of mothers, which creates warmth and sustenance between mother and child. 

When mothers and children were out and about, the children - under age 6 - were swaddled next to their mother in swaddling blankets. Children, from there, were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. From there, the swaddling blankets were tied to the left breast, and from there, across the dot, to the right leg of the mother. Children, from there, were in warm closeness to mothers. Time-in, in this context, was done by the mother simply holding the child closer to her bosom, cooing at the child out of reassurance.

Older children sometimes cried, in which case they were as light as a feather -  and then mothers picked up the child, holding the child, by the head, against her bosom. Mothers, at the same time, cooed at her child, in order to reassure and validate the child. The cooing was done as a means to make the child feel heard.

Cooing was a primal way of communicating to a child "I'm here". Most gentle parenting advice tells you to kneel to the child, and tell them "I'm here". Time-in, as done in biblical times, involves picking up the child, and holding the child close to her bosom, after mom cooed at the child. Cooing was all she had to do, and then the child fell into line, resting safely and securely in the loving arms of mothers.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!