Temper tantrums: What to do about temper tantrums in children

Every parent has had to deal with it. A child throwing a temper tantrum, whether it be at home or in public. Most American parents punish their children in some way when they throw a temper tantrums, or else ignore the tantrum. However, a child throwing a temper tantrum needs the sustaining warmth of mothers.

Soothing temper tantrums is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: as this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Parents are the enemy of children, just as mankind is the enemy of God, and are to submit as such. Child surrender to parents came with strings attached on the part of parents. with children issuing righteous demands from their restful place, usually when parents weren't pulling their own weight.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women in the church, but he sure loved children, and took in a few orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were hated largely for being "too soft" on their children.

Temper tantrums happened in biblical times as well as them happening in modern times. The common gentle parenting advice is to be firm and kneel down to the child. In biblical times, however, mothers were nothing but warm to crying children. Children of all ages who cried were picked up. The mother first cooed to validate the child's upset, and then picked up the child, then holding the child close to her bosom in skin-on-skin mammary closeness. 

The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, meaning that mothers and children were quartered next to each other in the nude, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Mothers were naked inside the family home, only wearing a loose-fitting, revealing dress - resembling an apron - outside of the home. Children were naked wherever they went. This allowed for children to easily receive skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance. Whenever children then threw a temper tantrum, mothers were not that far away, and all the way up until age 6, children were either being held by mothers or else ranging beside her.

Today, the abovementioned context can be applied by the mother being completely naked in the household, in order to serve both her husband and her child. That birth nudity setup makes it easier for mothers to provide sustaining warmth to their children. In public, temper tantrums can be dealt with by taking the child to the ladies' room, then tucking the child underneath your shirt. 

Whenever comforting a child, whether in public or at home, remember to coo at your child. Cooing is a primal way for both mothers and fathers alike to reassure and validate their children's upsets. Cooing lets children know that they are being heard. When cooing at your child, their crying should fall silent.

Children of all ages need to be comforted and reassured when crying. In biblical times, children up until age 6 were treated as babies, and were seen as babies. Mothers comforted milk-dependent children by breastfeeding them to sleep. Most of the time, children were weaned by age 3, which was when they pushed away the nipple. However, some children didn't push away the nipple until age 6 or even later. With older children, they were too picked up by their mothers when they cried, and cradled next to her bosom. Older children, in most cases, whined instead, and they got the same warm treatment from mothers that they would if they were crying.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which  is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven at hand!