Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the biblical way of doing time-in

Many parents use time-out as a means of controlling a child. Some parents, namely 37% of parents, use physical punishment as a means of controlling a child. Most American parents use some sort of punishment to control and reprimand a child when they are crying. Most American parents punish crying. The fact of the matter is that children don't need to be punished for crying, or for anything. Instead, children need time-in when they are crying or upset, and there is a proper way to do it. 

Time-in is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, where children rest securely in the loving arms of mothers, and mothers provide the sustenance necessary to reassure the child. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest secure in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul as lifting up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

Time-in is the opposite of time-out, and can be practiced in many ways. In the biblical context, time-in was practiced withing the safety and security of a birth nudity setup, where mother and child were naked next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. This brought out raw separation anxiety in the child, with the child deathly fearing their mother "going away and never coming back". Mothers accommodated the separation anxiety of children by picking up the child in skin-on-skin format, and engaging in skin-on-skin co-snuggling with the child. The mother would give the child mammary closeness, meaning hold the crying child close to her breast, perhaps allowing the child to breastfeed if he/she was milk-hungry. Mothers would respond to the every cry of a child, not just the cries that they felt like responding to.

When mothers and children were out and about in public, children were swaddled to the bosom of mothers, with mothers breastfeeding in public. The child was then tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress of mothers that resembled an apron. The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, and were tied to the left breast, and then tied further across the dot, to the mother's right leg, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. When children cried in public, mothers responded to the every cry of children, simply holding them close and maybe offering them to breastfeed if they were still milk-dependent. 

The breast area of women was not designed primarily for men to sexualize. It was designed primarily to nurture children. When children come into contact with that part of their mother's body, they immediately calm down, and then there can be a discussion based on what went wrong if the child has words. When you try it as a mother, you will wonder why you didn't use mammary closeness earlier. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is theb ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!