Righteous pampering: Why God wants children to be pampered by their parents

Many parents believe that children shouldn't be pampered. Most American parents think that pampering children is the irresponsible choice. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, pampering children is in line with the Scriptures. Parents in biblical times pampered their children. God lifted up this context using the Bible. 

Righteous pampering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul as lifting up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, with parents submitting to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to dea5h by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul. contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings. Paul was a special deacon that went on child protection missions, known as a "child savior". "Child saviors" in neither the Early Church nor Ancient Israel demanded sexual ransom, as sexual ransom was deemed fornication by way of rape/sexual assault. The Apostle Paul himself took in a few children.

Righteous pampering is when children are pampered just for being children. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. Mother and child were in a state of birth nudity, with mother and child in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. This birth nudity setup brought out raw separation anxiety in children, in which case the mother accommodated by way of providing sustaining warmth and reassurance. When a child cried at home, mothers would pick up the child and hold them, in skin-on-skin format. 

When out and about in public, mothers swaddled their young children - under age 6 - in swaddling blankets, perhaps breastfeeding in public if summoned to by her child. The child, from there, was tucked under the loose-fitting, revealing dress of mothers, that resembled an apron. The swaddling blankets were tied from the left breast, across the dot to the right leg of the mother, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. When young children cried, they were held closer to the bosom of mothers, in mammary comfort, and if milk-dependent, were offered to breastfeed. Older children, when they cried, were picked up and held in reassurance.

Parents in biblical times wanted to be seen as pampering their children. The rat race among Christian parents then wasn't "who can be the toughest on their children", but "who can pamper their children the most". When children cried, they were comforted and reassured every time, and never punished. Punishment and reprimands of any kind were prohibited under Christian law. This environment of wanting to be seen as pampering your child was created by Christian law, which at the time was applied as a spanking ban in the Early Church.

Children up until age 6 were seen as babies in biblical times. Babyhood, in the ancient world, is defined subjectively, according to culture. In the Early Church, children were babies until age 6, and sometimes even breastfed until age 6. Wherever the mother went, so did the child. Young children of this age group co-slept next to their mothers in skin-on-skin format, as did older children up until puberty.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!