Why talking back to parents is not sin

Many parents think that when their children are talking back to them, that they are sinning. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents punish their children from back talk. This is based on the old religious notion that children shouldn't spesk against their parents. Most parents in America do not know what the Bible actually teaches about talking back to parents

A common commandment cited is to "honour thy faher and thy mother" (see Exod. 20:12). This commandment is repeated several times in the New Testament, including in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the wake of the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing childrrn as vulnerable extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not lmited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with kidnapping being defined under the Law as the slightest of damagrs or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

Children, in biblical times, held lawful authority over their parents, with children issuing lawful orders to parents, especially as they got older. Parents had to obey the every order of children by default, and could only refuse the law of their children if the order was unworkable or immoral. Otherwise, parents had to obey their children.

Parents and other adults could not speak against the children, as children were seen as sacrosanct in biblical times. Children could do no wrong in the eyes of the Law, even if children did do some things considered immoral, technically legally. Children were seen as royalty, in the sense that they were deemed representatives of God, called to judge the charity and good will of mankind.

Children could sue their parents at law if they perceived personal offenses or damages from their parents. However, parents could not sue their children. If a parent did take their child to court in the Early Church, the church elders would force the parent to apologize to their child for even challenging them in court. Even if the parents were being beaten by their children, they could not sue their children for the damages until their children left the home, if the course of conduct continued.

Speaking against parents alone is not dishonoring parents. In order to dishonor your parents, you have to be an adult living away from your parents. Dishonoring parents only refers to specific offenses such as striking parents repeatedly (see also Exod. 21:15), administering an airborne gaslighting curse to parents (see also Lev. 20:9), and committing moral crimes in  a way that bring shame upon your mother (see also Deut. 21:18-21). Apart from these specific offenses, parents were the property of children, for children to use for their own purposes, and could not be dishonored. Simply talking back is not dishonoring your parents, as children have the right to their own law to enforce on their parents. Parents cannot enforce law on minor children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God/s Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!