Pro-social permissiveness: Why children call the shots (according to the Bible)

Many parents today support authoritative parenting. Most parents in America these days think that authoritative parenting. Authoritative parenting is also known as democatic parents, and in an authoritative home, children have some say, but the parent has the final say. Authoritative parents do punish, but usually with time-out, and only on occasion with corporal punishment. Pro-social permissiveness is the better way to parent a child, as children need a good punching bag, at least to hurl angry words at when they are upset. In a pro-social permissive home, children call the shots.

Pro-social permissiveness is a form of attachment parenting based on the righteous enslavement of parents, which is an application of the doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children from beneath, yet from above, revering their children as extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offensed stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up this legal context in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Parents are to be submissive to their children, just as parent believers are also submissive to God. Children in biblical times were prized for being bold and rebellious. Boldness in children was seen as a sign of independence in children, with independence being valued by parents in the Bible over obedience and discipline. Rebellion in children was seen as cute and endearing by parents and other adults, and was encouraged as well. Children issued righteous demands to their parents, issuing orders snd edicts for everything they wanted and needed. Children in biblical times got most of what they wanted, and everything that they needed. The demands of children brought parents to full and dutiful submission, expecting absolutely nothing in return, fearing the Lord in caring for their children.

Children in biblical times were seen as extensions of God, meaning children were installments and sentries of God, judging the charity and good will of parents and other adults. Children were seen as having a deity of their own, with that deity being representative of part of God's personality. Children were seen as a collective Godhead reigning over parents from above, yet from beneath. 

Children, in biblical times, wore absolutely no clothing, at all, until they became adults. Women only wore clothing outside the home, and otherwise went in the nude, in order to serve both their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by way of providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comfort. Children went naked in biblical times for a reason - so that mothers could scoop up their crying children and snuggle with them in order to soothe them, and easily gain skin-to-skin contact and traction with their child. When out and about, children up until age 6 were wrapped up next to their mother's bosom in swaddling blankets. By night, mothers co-slept next to their children, in order to protect their children from predators, including sexual predators in the home. Fathers also developed a secure attachment to their children, when witnessing skin-on-skin closeness between mother and child, thereby forming a sexual attachment to the child. Fathers then regulated this unrequited lust by way of following their sexual thoughts to the end using masturbatory fantasy. Daughters in particular were usually sexually attached to their father as well, meaning usually they wanted to look attractive for their father, but also did masturbate to sexual thoughts about their father. Actual child sexual abuse, in biblical times, was rare next to non-existent, with offenders being severely punished once caught, and with child sexual predators being put to death by way of burning at the stake. Fathers nurtured by acting as a playmate towards their children, being dragged everywhere by their children like a human ragdoll. Otherwise, fathers guarded the mother and child from interlopers, wielding a rod and staff to beat the intruder(s) with. Mothers, in turn, guarded children from the sexual entitlement of their fathers. Fathers usually placed their daughters on a pedestal, and worshipped her as a goddess of sexuality, but usually, he relieved the forbidden attraction himself using masturbation, which the mother insisted upon. When he went after the children, the mother was usually right there, and he was cut off from the people on the spot, either through execution or instant divorce. 

True permissiveness is lack of limits for children to the point of blurred boundaries. When boundaries are violated due to the boundaries between adult and child, that is true permissiveness. Pro-social permissiveness is instead about the child setting boundaries and limits instead of parents unilaterally having control over children. I myself, as a pedophile parent to children, am naturally permissive, though I now know how to set limits in a non-punitive way that I am comfortable with.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!