How to teach children Judeo-Christian family values - without spanking or punishment

Many parents want to teach children Judeo-Christian values. Most parents in America want to teach children Judeo-Christian family values. However, most American parents think that the only way to teach Judeo-Christian values is to punish or be controlling with children. The fact of the matter is that attachment parenting can be used to impart any values system, including Judeo-Christian family values. 

The avoidance of entitlement is at the core of our Judeo-Christian family values as a nation. The Greek root word denoting entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, want, to the point of imposition. It is good not to want anything in life, but since we all want something as depraved and decadent human beings, we should ask politely and appropriately as to what we want, and accept "no" as an answer, not throwing a temper tantrum when hearing the word "no". Most entitlement comes from a deserving place, where the individual feels that they deserve things in life. You, as an adult, are a depraved and decadent sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing, and is to be grateful for absolutely everything in life. Avoiding entitlement leads to discipline and chastisement in an individual. All of this applies to avoiding and eliminating parental entitlement as well, as parental entitlement is the lowest form of entitlement there is, and God's Law says to avoid it. Children are watching your every move, and when you show entitlement - even to them - they learn that showing entitlement is the right way to get what you want in life.

Judeo-Christian values are a good set of values to model to a child. However, a good set of values needs to be backed up by something. Punitive parenting measures such as spanking and punishment simply don't work, and simply cause resentment between parent and child. Attachment parenting is the only way to go, as attachment parenting provides a safe place for children to absorb the values of their parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children as they would God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Children are to rest safely and securely in the presence of parents, trusting parents in all things. following mothers around especially like goslings to a mother goose.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up this legal context to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Children, in biblical times, wore absolutely nothing, at all, until they became adults. Women only wore clothing outside the home, and otherwise went in the nude, in order to serve both her husband and her children. Mothers served their children by way of providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding or skin-on-skin comforting strategies. There is a reason why children went naked all of the time in biblical times - so that mothers could scoop them up and soothe them with skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance when they cried or were upset in any way. When mothers were out and about, children were wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets, in co-mingling format. When children were crying and upset, or even defiant, mothers held children close to their bosom, perhaps allowing them to breastfeed if the child was milk-dependent. By night, mothers slept next to children in skin-on-skin format, guarding them from predators external and domestic, including possible sexual predators in the home. Fathers also formed a secure attachment to the child, after witnessing skin-on-skin closeness between mother and child. Usually, secure attachment from fathers came in the form of sexual attachment, usually in connotational format, and usually towards daughters. Fathers followed those sexual thoughts to the end using masturbatory fantasy. Actual child sexual abuse was rare next to non-existent in biblical times, but when it did happen, it was seen as deserving of death.

Attachment parenting is the way to teach Judeo-Christian values, as it creates a safe place for children to explore and absorb Judeo-Christian family values at their own pace. Theoretically, you can pass down any set of values using attachment parenting, and that surely includes Judeo-Christian values. You don't have to beat good values into a child. All you have to do is provide a good example, then form a secure attachment with your child to back up that example, and then children will be open to your values. Children who have a secure attachment to parents want to be like their parents. Thus, if parents avoid entitlement and follow good Judeo-Christian values, so will children as long as there is a secure attachment to parents.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!