Child crushes: Understanding how to prevent child sexual abuse

Many parents and adults blame pedophiles as the sole cause of child sexual abuse in this country. Most adults think that pedophiles are the ones sexually abusing children. The prejudicial hysteria against pedophiles and pedophilia holds that only pedophiles are responsible for the epidemic of child sexual abuse in this country and worldwide. However, the fact of the matter is that every single adult is capable of sexually abusing a child under the right/wrong conditions. Most child sexual abuse is a form of adult sexual entitlement used to oppress children. The way to understand child sexual abuse is through child crushes.

What is pedophilia? Pedophilia, in terms of personality, is a form of immature autism, where the age-oriented sexual preferences of the individual reflect their arrested emotional development. Most pedophiles are not abusers, but simply replicate their abuser in some small way - their attractions. Most pedophiles have an autistic specialty surrounding children, child care, and children's rights. They usually advocate for children in an argumentative and adversarial way, guarding children like a defense attorney stands by his/her client. Most pedophiles were sexually abused in some way by abusive religious parents, usually in the form of sexual shaming abuse.

What causes child sexual abuse then? Child crushes, usually when repressed, and usually regarding a secondary sexual attraction, usually to pubescent children. Any adult is capable of forming a child crush under the right/wrong conditions. Most adults, when this happens, repress the sexual attraction to the child, in which case the repressed attraction takes over and then comes out sideways onto the child. Most former abusers report that they felt nauseous at the time of the abuse, but felt compelled to do it anyway. The sex offender first finds attraction in a child, and is too ashamed to follow that crush to the end using masturbatory fantasy. When alone with a child, the offender second guesses themselves, then sexually attacks the child. They first feel awkward around the child, then they attack. The most common place where this happens is bath time.

What ideology ultimately causes child sexual abuse? The same false and abusive religious doctrine used to sexually shame pedophilic children - false teachings against lust. The Greek root word denoting lust in the New Testament is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, or even to sexual desire about children, but instead, in this context, adult sexual entitlement, which is sexual want, to the point of taking the first steps to approach a child. Unfortunately, many people believe that sexual fantasy about a child is worse than the act itself, when, in the Bible, only the act itself and the approach beforehand are condemned. 

The key to preventing child sexual abuse as an adult is, when you have a sexual thought about a child, follow it to its end instead of trying to push it out of your head. The best way to follow such a thought to its end is through masturbatory fantasy. Under those conditions, the child crush should be spent away, and then you can go back to normal interaction with the child. If it doesn't go away right away, you are a pedophile, and you need to own up to it. Keep in mind, however, that the attraction may come back, in which case you have to follow it to its end in masturbatory fantasy once more, and keep doing that as a process. 

If everyone started sexually fantasizing about children, and felt comfortable doing so, child sexual abuse would end very quickly, likely within a generation or two. Thus, the fantasy about sex with a child needs to become more accepted, while still punishing the act itself, and then punishing the act itself and the approach leading up to it more swiftly. There is nothing wrong with masturbatory fantasy about a child. What is wrong is approaching a child for sexual or flirtatious reasons. If you are an adult, I recommend, as an advocate, that you find your sexual side in relation to children, and follow that fantasy about children to the end, and keep replenishing that sexual need. When that sexual need is starved, sexual abuse festers.

Are child sex offenders responsible for their actions? Yes. All they had to do was follow the child crush to its end using masturbatory fantasy. Because they refused an option that could save them, they must suffer the consequences, and serve their sentence. Individuals have a responsibility to others, and to themselves in relation to others. When you have a crush on a child that young, and you choose to run away from it instead of deal with it, you pay the penalty.

The depraved and decadent, defiled sex offenders who sexually assault and rape a child due to their own sexual inaction will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into torrents of fire! Repent!