Original sin: Why child entitlement is the one entitlement to let go

Many parents punish their children. The core, main justification for punishing children is that children are born in original sin. Most parents think this Christian fact means that children are to have the sin "beaten out of them". Sin is entitlement, and entitlement is sin. Children are entitled people, with child entitlement existing at every level of a child's entitlement. But, they are entitled in a specific way that makes child entitlement the one entitlement to let go in a person.

Entitlement is the core of our sin nature, and want is at the core of our entitlement. The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, officially speaking, want, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, entitlement is defined as the slightest of unattainable want. Child entitlement is when a child cannot accept the word "no". However, this is because of the inborn nature of children, in a way a child both cannot help, and cannot be expected to know better concerning their behavior.

Children are born with clinical entitlement at every level of their entitlement. However, this state of being changes automatically as children get older. Children have a nature where they want what they want when they want it, and due to their immature nature, they cannot possibly control those wants at that given time in their development. Children, as the get older, however, get better at centering their development.

Why do children get better at centering their entitlement on their own? When children have a secure attachment to a parent, they want to be like that parent. So, in an attachment parenting home, they are then challenged, on their own, to do the work to be like their parents. Thus, if children in a securely attached home are given a good Judeo-Christian example, they will work towards those ideals on their own. There is no need to punish or control children.

Children, despite being entitled, are not responsible for their entitled behavior. This is because righteous judgment means judging others and the world just as the Early Christians judged then. The Early Church taught that children were sacrosanct, meaning children did no wrong in the eyes of the court, even if they did, and whomever brought a child to trial was the one convicted. The rationale was that children were still learning the Law, and were only to be held liable to the Law when their religious education was culminated, and they were baptized into the church as adults. Only adult believers had to answer for their entitlement, to the court and to God. Children could do no wrong, and that's how children were valued in the Early Church, even when they did do wrong.

Attachment parenting needs to be used in order to properly cultivate a child's sin nature and teach them good values. Christian attachment parenting is imparting a Christian example to children, and backing it up with a secure attachment with children. Secure attachment is cultivated by way of a setup of mutual submission, with the parent bearing the burden of proof in submitting to children. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, submitting to children as they would to God, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Children are to rest safely and securely in the presence of parents, following parents around like goslings follow their mother goose.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a slave. Paul here was lifting up this legal context to a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Children, in biblical times, wore no clothing, at all, until they became adults. Women only wore clothing outside the home, and otherwise went in the nude, in order to serve their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by way of providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy, respectively. The core of Christian attachment parenting in the 1st Century was skin-on-skin co-sleeping, with mother and child fast asleep next to each other, and with children soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin contact with mothers. Children went naked for a specific reason - so that mothers could cuddle them up and snuggle them up when they were crying or upset. By day, children ranged next to mothers, following her around like a gosling to a mother goose, sometimes clinging to her. When children cried or were upset, children were held to the bare bosom of mothers, resting in her loving arms in the nude. Secure attachment to mothers automatically translated onto fathers. However, fathers usually felt parent attraction towards their children when coming to the point of secure attachment on their end - usually the child of the opposite sex, meaning daughters - in which case they followed the thought to the end using masturbation (pro-social fantasy).

When children have a secure attachment with their parents, they are motivated to work on their entitled wants. If children also have a disciplined and non-entitled example, children will naturally want to work on their entitlement issues, and grow up to be as strong and disciplined as their Christian parents. When children have a secure attachment with YOU as the parent, they like you in a way that they want to be just like YOU, and see YOU on the level of a superhero. What child wouldn't want to be like their parents if their parents were nothing but nice and respectful to them? 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!