Original sin: Why parental entitlement is to be avoided

Many parents believe some entitlement in parenting is healthy. This is a common belief among American parents. Most American parents endorse parental entitlement, and refuse to fight against their parental entitlement. Most adults believe only pedophiles should avoid parental entitlement. However, the Bible specifically deals with parental entitlement in the form of a moral prohibition, and does so on the offense level.

It says in Romans 3:9-12 KJV:

What then? are we better than they? No, in no wise: for we have before proved both Jews and Gentiles, that they are all under sin; As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one: There is none that understandeth, there is none that seeketh after God. They are all gone out of the way, they are together become unprofitable; there is none that doeth good, no, not one.

This passage was written to Roman Christians in the 1st Century. The Roman Christians were becoming very prideful in their faith, thinking that they were the righteous ones just for being Romans who accepted Christ. Paul here was convicting the Roman Christians of their original sin. Today, this passage is a testament to how God views humanity. God hates us all, so much that God doesn't want us even to exist in relation to Him. All of mankind, by default, is marked for deletion. Only a few of us - the elect - will be saved. The rest of mankind is condemned to their fate which is the second death, meaning the Hell of fire and torment created for Satan and his accomplices. God hates mankind as a species especially because of the one-sided incursions of adult-kind on child-kind. We as adults are depraved and decadent sinners who are deserving of absolutely nothing, from children or anyone else.

The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament, including parental entitlement, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, this word refers to wanting things from children, period. It is not good to want anything in life, including from children. But, since we all want something from children as depraved and decadent adults, we are to ask politely and appropriately for what we want from them, and accept when they won't or can't follow our instructions. Want is the very core of our sin nature, and wants from children are the very core of our wants as depraved and decadent human beings. We, as adults, are depraved and decadent sinners deserving of absolutely nothing, from children or anyone else. Deadly entitlement in relation to children is want imposed on children. When that imposed want leads to offense perceived by the child, the entitlement leads to child abuse. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any form of punishment or controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time...

...Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen then as holding a child hostage merely for things they did wrong. Paul, here, was lifting up this legal context for a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan customs of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Parental entitlement can be understood as coming in two forms - parent anger and parent attraction. Parents never got angry at their child in biblical times. Most parents in biblical times were not driven by anger, but instead were driven by righteous anxiety and worry. Any parent who even showed anger towards a child was seen as a viper and a monster. Any anger towards a child in public, or even in front of family members, led to an investigation of the parents, and in the Old Testament, the parents were put to death by way of bloodletting. In the Early Church, church parishioners put the offender on watch, and different parishioners documented known incidents of fits of anger towards a child, until the parents were confronted with what the church already knew on the way out. See Matt. 5:21-22. 

Parent attraction is also a form of parental entitlement. This form of entitlement is not deadly unless it leads to the parent or other adult approaching a child for sexual or flirtatious reasons. Parent attraction is a sin nature so low in a parent's entitlement that it can't be totally purged, and so it has to be re-channeled inward using solo masturbation. This encapsulates the desire, and makes the desire a choice as to whether to act on, as opposed to an "unseen drive". The choice to sexually abuse a child is strongly condemned in the Bible, meaning today any child under age 18, as denoted by the Greek root word πορνεία (Latin: porneia). The moment you take the first steps to approach a child for sexual or flirtatious purposes, the moment you have sinned. If you are actively having sex with a child, turn the plank inwards and masturbate to fantasies of the child you are with. If you have a crush on a child, follow the thought to the end using solo masturbation, until the thought is spent away.

My struggle with parental entitlement has long been with adult sexual entitlement. I still want children in order to snuggle with and hug, in order to create a relationship that isn't there and can't be there morally speaking. I still want sex with a child, but I have long accepted that I won't get what I want. I just have to know not to go up and approach a young girl. I have internalized that if I even go up to a young girl, I am going to Hell. I am a depraved and decadent sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing, from children or anyone else. I am evil just for existing as the adult that I am. I wish more adults would take my repentant attitude, and so I model my repentance to them.

The parent entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!