How to teach Judeo-Christian values - without spanking or punishment

Many parents in America want to teach Judeo-Christian values to their children. This is a common desire among American parents. Many people think that anti-spanking parenting is contradictory to Judeo-Christian values, and thus such values should be taught with punitive measures. However, the fact of the matter is that attachment parenting can teach any values system, with attachment parenting being a time-tested method of parenting that was used throughout the ancient world.

Judeo-Christian values can be summed up in one word, and that word denotes Christian love. The Greek root word denoting Christian love is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to prioritizing your neighbor first, and yourself last, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to the every vulnerable need of your neighbor, expecting absolutely nothing in return. True Love does not come from pride or desire, but from a place of conviction, where you come to the knowledge that you are a depraved and decadent sinner, deserving of absolutely nothing. This realization leads to a rush to pay due penance for your sins by serving your neighbor. Children are your neighbor, in the biblical tense, as children were seen as your neighbor in the Early Church and preceding Jewish society, in the vulnerable tense as the "least of these". Love washes away our depraved and decadent sin nature, which we all have as fallen human beings. Love starts when you find fault in yourself, not other people, and not your child. It is a charring and tarring feeling that prompts you to be more charitable.

A good values system should be modeled to children, not beaten into them. However, a good Christian example needs to be backed up by something. Punitive parenting has been proven to be ineffective, and just does not work - it drives children away from the good Christian values that this country was founded on. Just look at the new generation - atheistic and hopeless. Christian attachment parenting is the only way to back up a good Christian example. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, sacrificing for their children, just as Christ sacrificed for His church, with children being a Godhead for parents to serve, with children resting in the submission of parents, owing absolutely nothing to parents, yet giving back out of grace and not legal obligation.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any forms of punishment or controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time... 

...Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage taking - child punishment was seen then as holding a child hostage merely for things they did wrong. Paul here was lifting up this legal context to a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan customs into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of children. Paul, here, was lifting up the Law in order to educate Greek and Roman parent newcomers to the Christian Church about church tradition, which was rooted in the founding Jewish custom of the church.

Children, in biblical times, wore no clothing, at all, until they were adults. Women only wore clothing when outside the family home running errands, and otherwise, went in the nude in order to serve their husbands and their children. Mothers served their children by way of providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy, respectively. The core aspect of Christian attachment parenting in the 1st Century was skin-on-skin co-sleeping, with mothers and children sleeping next to each other in the nude, with both mother and child having skin-to-skin contact that is sustaining and forms a secure bond with children.

That secure bond with children is what ultimately backs up the good Christian example of parents. Attachment parenting makes children want to follow a role model that is parents, by making children like parents and want to be like parents. This phenomenon is known as pro-social barter. You provide attached warmth and comfort, and then children will give back later. Do note that young children are not in any shape developmentally to give back. But, as children approach adolescence and young adulthood, you can anticipate them to give back, and if they don't give back, you abused them. Most of the time, if you used attachment parenting to earn your rewards from a child, they should give back to you, and most always, they will. If a child raised with attachment parenting rejects their parents, there might be more to the story, and that may not be due to trauma - some children have inborn mental illness that is genetic in nature, and they can only be deemed a prodigal son past a certain point. But, ALL children can benefit from attachment parenting. With children with mental illness, attachment parenting means giving them space to be themselves and keep them safe until they can be medicated. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!