Pro-social self-loathing: Avoiding parental entitlement in parenting

Many parents think that they have rights, and that they are good people just for being parents. Parenting in the United States, by way of false norm, often comes with pride and entitlement. Most parents in America think that parental entitlement is the one entitlement you excuse. The fact of the matter is that you don't become entitled as a parent - you instead become more self-loathing, abdicating your glorified title.

I myself am a children's rights Christian/conservative. We as conservatives want children's rights to be promoted as an anti-entitlement cause. Pedophiles today are expected to atone for their existence with parental non-entitlement. The goal of Children's Rights is for all adults to hold themselves to the same lowly status that a pedophile does. We at children's rights do not like parental entitlement at all. Most advocates don't say this directly like I do because of religious trauma due to severe child abuse.

It says in Romans 3:9-12 KJV:

What then? are we better than they? No, in no wise: for we have before proved both Jews and Gentiles, that they are all under sin; As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one. There is none that understandeth, there is none that seeketh after God. They are all gone out of the way, they are together become unprofitable; there is none that doeth good, no, not one. 

This passage was written to Roman Christians in the 1st Century. The Roman Christians then were becoming prideful in their practice of Christianity, thinking that they were the righteous ones just for being Christians. Paul was convicting the Romans of their original sin. Today, this passage can be understood as a reflection of how God feels about humanity. God hates us all as human beings, to the point where He wants us not to exist. God has marked all mankind, by default, for deletion just for existing, Only a few will earn their right to exist, and the rest will be subject to eternal punishment and torment. God is especially angry at the single-sided incursion on child-kind by adult-kind. Every single adult is guilty for existing in relation to God and the Children He protects, and is deserving of nothing but DEATH and PUNISHMENT for their wretched existence. We all, as adults, have wronged children with our wretched existence. As adults, we are deserving of everything hateful and resentful from children, and nothing respectful and forgiving, for we are depraved and decadent monsters that tower over children, seeking to overpower them with our depraved and decadent sin nature.

What drives out sin, including parental entitlement? Only Christian love! The Greek root word denoting Christian love in the New Testament is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to prioritizing your neighbor first, and yourself last, in terms of priority of needs. Love is not just a feeling or an action, but instead is a state of being where everyone else's needs come first, and your own needs come last. True love does not come from pride or desire, but from a place of conviction, where you come to the knowledge that you are a depraved and decadent sinner deserving of absolutely nothing, and thus you pay due penance for your sinful nature by serving your neighbor. A parent or other adult is the enemy of children, just as mankind is the enemy of God, and is to be subservient to children just as they are to Him. Parents and other adults are to serve children as the adversary of said child, atoning for their sinful and hateful nature towards children, expecting absolutely nothing in return for said service.

The Greek root word denoting entitlement, including parental entitlement, in the New Testament, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, officially speaking, want, to the point of imposition. In terms of parental entitlement, the word refers to, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially, the word refers to, in this context, wanting things from children, period. It is not good to want anything in life, as want is the core of our depraved and decadent sin nature as human beings. But, we all want something as depraved and decadent humans, so we need to ask politely and appropriately. That also means ask things of children politely and appropriately, bracing yourself for a denial of requests. It is not good to want anything from a child, but we all do as depraved and decadent human beings, so ask politely and appropriately.

Parental entitlement is dealt with explicitly in the Bible, and in offense format. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times, and receiving many warnings that their punitive parenting habits were in violation of the Law. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding a child hostage merely for things they did wrong. Paul here was lifting up the Law for a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child. Paul here was educating Greek and Roman newcomers to the Christian Church on proper Jewish parenting. The Early Christians held Jewish parenting customs as church tradition in terms of proper parenting, and this is clearly indicated in the Bible, and thus the American church should follow suit.

I am a depraved and decadent sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing. I have adult sexual self-interest in children, meaning I am a pedophilic adult deserving of nothing but DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to children. I am grateful that the victims of my adult abuse and harassment of children are forgiving of my moral crimes towards them, as I do not deserve any of that. I am a depraved and decadent sinner in relation to children, deserving of absolutely nothing from children or anyone else, not even respect, not even forgiveness.

The parent entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast in to the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend in to the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever!