How to teach sexual purity to children - without punishment or shaming

Many parents want their children to learn the Christian teaching of sexual purity. The teaching of sexual purity is a part of our Christian heritage as a country, and is a national norm around the country. Most parents want their children to hear this message. A few parents on the political and social left have given up, and allow their children to have "safe sex". However, no sex is safe unless it is within the bounds of a lawfully-ordained Christian marriage between an adult man and an adult woman.

It says in 1 Corinthians 6:18 KJV:

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and most literally translates to "outside of proper channels". Sexual relations were regulated in biblical times by the church authorities, and marriage, as a contract, was a license for a man to lawfully have sexual relations with a woman. Otherwise, sexual relations between individuals was outlawed, and was seen as a form of impurity and uncleanness. Men in particular who committed fornication were seen as unclean until the even, and thus sexually impure, and were judged as the lowest in the lake of fire which is Hell. Fornication was seen as a sin worse than murder, and along the lines of blasphemy.

Masturbation, contrary to popular belief about the Bible, was not stigmatized in biblical times. The Greek root word denoting lust in the New Testament is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but to sexual desire to the point of taking the first steps to approach a woman for sexual or flirtation purposes. When the approach of a man is perceived by a woman, that is what constitutes fornication under Divine Codified Jurisprudence. It is okay to look the look, or think the think. It just is not okay to approach the approach, or do the deed. Masturbation in the privacy of one's own room is the safest sex any child or teenager can have, and it is the only form of sex God approves for the them. Pornography was prohibited as masturbation material, as God hates the mere existence of pornography. Pornography that was on the person was confiscated as contraband, with the person possessing the depictions being questioned as to where they received the pornography. Pornography possession itself is not a mortal offense, but children were taught to hate pornography. Solo masturbation without pornography was the only acceptable outlet to childhood sexual desires, and was encouraged from very young. When a child was caught using pornography, parents redirected the child towards masturbation without pornography, and then asked them where they got the depictions.

Punishing a child for their sexuality is a moral crime against the child him/herself. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including punishment and controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen then as holding a child hostage merely for things they did wrong. Paul here was lifting up the Law for a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child. Paul, here, was educating Greek and Roman newcomers to the Christian Church about proper Jewish parenting, which was attachment-based then. The Early Christians were considered a sect of Judaism back in the 1st Century. Jewish parenting, then and now, was attachment-based, and has been traditionally warm and loving. 

Children played freely in biblical times, albeit with supervision at all times. Much of the play in biblical times would be considered high-risk by today's standards. One game children played then was "marriage", where boys and girls pretend-played a Jewish wedding. Children, in biblical times, wore no clothing, at all, until adulthood. The final sealing of a marriage contract in biblical times was a signature on the dotted line which was sexual intercourse. Most children just embraced each other to symbolize the consummation of a marriage. When a boy attempted to penetrate a girl, parents were right there, and separated the two. But, instead of punishing or shaming their children, they reassured their children that they would get a chance to have sex, someday, when they were married. 

Parents in biblical times didn't punish or shame their children for their sexuality, but instead encouraged abstinence and delayed gratification. Parents, when children did have sex or attempt to have sex, separated children and redirected them towards masturbation, reassuring them that they would be able to have sex legitimately someday, with a wife or husband that they loved. The two acronyms that describe how parents in biblical times kept children from having sex are pro-social separation and pro-social redirect. Children were redirected towards masturbation every time they attempted to have sex with a peer or an adult, after being separated by parents. Parents also supervised children closely, with children not ever leaving the line of sight of parents, thus parents could prevent sexual liaisons between children from even happening.

Masturbation was seen in biblical times as not much of a scandal, if it was a scandal at all. In most all cases, masturbation was not a scandal at all, even when found out. Masturbation was seen as a healthy way to regulate sexual desire when you didn't have a spouse. Children masturbated in biblical times as young as age 3, and were aware of their sexuality from very young. Every once and a while, a child attempted to mount another child, in which case parents simply separated the two and reassured them that they would be able to have sex someday, with a spouse. In the mean time, they were redirected to masturbation, with that behavior being encouraged as a healthy way for children to center their sex drive. Repeated usages of pornographic websites can be deterred using pornography blockers, just as parents in biblical times stood in the way of the flow of pornographic material into their homes.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!