Individual responsibility: How to prevent child sexual abuse (before it occurs)

Many parents think that sexual abuse is something only committed by pedophiles, which are "over there" and hence we need not worry too much. In the mindset of today's society, all the adults near the child are safe, and all the adults away from children are not safe, hence why child victims aren't believed. What if I told you that adults attracted to children could simply stop sexually abusing children on their own, without outside intervention.

All adults are guilty of existing in relation to children, and that is because all adults are capable of sexual abuse against children. Teenage and preteen girls are most at risk for sexual abuse, from men who have a secondary attraction to children that they weren't factoring in, and thus they weren't prepared to be around a child they were attracted to. Any adult can sexually abuse a child under the right/wrong conditions. The key to individual responsibility in this regard is to find those conditions for yourself, and avoid those conditions.

Conditions for sexual abuse can be understood in terms of factors. The biggest factor in any child sexual abuse case is location, as it relates to how the abuser acclimates themselves. First, a sexually entitled adult gets into a situation with a child, either being too reckless and adventurous, or is ashamed of their attraction in a way that they don't know what to do with it. But the child is right there, and they are attracted to her. As soon as there is an opportunity, the offender doubles down on the child. Usually, the offender either does not believe in sexual fantasy for children, and/or doesn't have the social skills to know the harm of abuse. Usually, the abuser starts acclimating themselves with sexual harassment, and then they go down the Title IX spectrum of offenses to rape.

So, why were you even there if that happened? Why did you choose to be alone with that child in the first place? It is a perfectly plausible request to not be alone with any child, particularly if you are a man, and you can even say that you don't want to be accused of anything. Most other adults understand. Most have the capacity to spot you out if you are planning to commit an offense, but most adults simply look the other way.

The key to not abusing a child is being in the habit of not abusing a child. With sexual abuse, the drive in adults is so low level that there needs to be a replacement location. Set aside a room in the house where you can just discharge the fantasy about a child, and let it go, and keep letting it go until you are tired of the fantasy. By then, you should be used to your adult attraction to children, and be comfortable with it at the same time. You are then out of the habit of abusing a child sexually, because you are taking it elsewhere. For the average adult, this would be entertaining the occasional teenage fantasy.

Who is ultimately responsible for preventing child sexual abuse? YOU, the individual adult, because there are things you can do so you don't get caught up "in a predicament". If you are stuck in a situation where you want to have sex with a child, RUN AWAY, and then fantasize about the child later. Get in the habit of fantasy, and as you get in the habit, your fantasies should become tamer. It is replacing one habit with another. All adults have the duty to choose not to abuse a child. 

I myself have committed acts of sexual harassment towards children. I flirted with young girls, waving at them, and at times making them feel uncomfortable. The main location I committed most of my moral crimes against children was a local swimming area. What I did to solve the problem was re-acclimate myself NOT to abuse a child sexually, resisting the desire to approach a child sexually, knowing that it is sin to approach a child for sexual purposes. I am responsible for what I did, and I apologize to all those I have hurt, as I was wrong.

Let the depraved and decadent, defiled fornicators who provoke children to anger BURN in everlasting Hell-fire! Repent!