Self-behaviorism: Why behavioral techniques are for parents (not children)

Many parents have a child with autism. Applied Behavioral Analysis (ABA) is a way many behavioral specialists brainwash parents. However, behaviorism does have a valid application - with oneself, as a parent or similarly charged adult in relation to children

The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and officially refers to want to the point of imposition, meaning any want imposed upon your neighbor. Unofficially, however, it refers to any unattainable want as an infraction, and not an offense. The idea is to strive not to want anything from your neighbor, including children. The idea is to be entitled to nothing, and grateful for everything, setting a good example for children. 

Children with autism can be taught by example. They just have to like the adult, and this means forming a secure parent-child bond, preferably from day one, lest your child with autism reject you. Love for a child, in the Christian sense, is putting one's child first, and parents last, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in parents. Parents work and do their job, and children rest in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, with parents doing good works for the child, and children resting in safety, security, and gratitude, owing nothing in return to parents. This is a form of respect for parents where children don't fear their parents, but feel safe and secure in the presence of parents. Parents should be a safe place for children to unleash their every emotion, upset, and frustration, with parents not forcing children to mince their words. Children in biblical times felt safe enough around parents to bare their nude vulnerability to them, going naked wherever they were, yet never leaving the side of parents. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages in this context, or the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child. The Apostle Paul here was lifting up the Law to Greek Christians who punished their children as part of Hellenistic custom. Punishing one's child carried severe penalties under the Law, meaning it was seen as deserving of death on the part of the parent. The seven verses in Proverbs that depict the rod of correction are all repealed verses, as they actually depict a dated form of judicial corporal punishment - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, as a final warning before putting an errant ADULT son to death, usually for crimes against the state or crimes against children. The parent protection laws, in practice, were never enforced. Minor children could not be charged with any moral crime or civil wrong, as children under the age of majority could not stand trial. Any anger towards a child, meaning imposed on them, is a courtroom exchange, and children are too young and too inexperienced to handle the exchange. So, the idea is to stifle anger or other emotions associated with interrogation. Ask, and you shall receive from your child, if they are ready. Demand, and you get nothing but resentment, at least later on.

Want from children is something you don't do as a parent. The idea behind self-behaviorism is to chasten oneself up in the Lord as the example you wish to impart onto your child. In order to teach them values, you have to be those values to them, and impart them. Christian parents should impart the Living Example of Christ onto children, meaning parents should be entitled to nothing, and grateful for everything, especially from their child. That means try not to want things from your child, and if you do want something from your child, ask nicely and politely, and you shall receive anything your child can give you.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!