Please your child: The role of parents as keeping peace in the home

Many parents think that keeping peace in the home means firm, punitive discipline. This is a common misconception about children made by parents. Children do not need a firm hand - they need to be pleased, and from there won over.

Children cannot be trained like a pet can. Children are instead to be won over like a wife should be won over. I myself am conditioned by my Christian beliefs to please children, and appease to them, not wanting them to be angry with me, calmly blaming myself when they are angry with me, assuming it is something I must clear up with courtroom honesty. I am entitled to nothing from a child, including their approval, as a child owes me nothing. YOU, the parent, cannot take your child to court, but your child can take you to court, and they can tell you how they want to be parented (petition of redress of grievances).

Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, with parents/adults being meek and shamefaced in relation to children, being shut up in the Lord for their sin nature as entitled adults. Parents especially are to esteem their children above all else, putting children first, and parents last, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission and subjection to children and their every need, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents are to work for their child, while their child rests in the work from parents. Parents are to please their children by creating space for children to tell them anything and everything under the sun, then appeasing their demands by responding to them instead of reacting to them, giving them whatever they want that is attainable and safe, knowing that wants point to needs, ALWAYS responding to cries with reassurance instead of disdain. Children felt safe enough around parents in the Bible to be naked in front of them, meaning children went anywhere and everywhere while naked, but always within the supervisory line of sight of parents. Nudity was to lower the level of attachment to full equality, and to ensure skin-to-skin closeness. Rest in parents means that the child feels safe in a secure parent-child bond, with parents being a child's best friend.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages, meaning the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including the slightest of offensive touch or speech, including striking, punishing, or otherwise controlling a child, regardless. The Apostle Paul was lifting up the Law concerning punishing children. Punishing a child carried severe penalties in both ancient Israel and the Early Church. The seven rod verses in the book of Proverbs that depict the rod of correction do not refer to any "biblical spanking", but to a specific, dated form of judicial corporal punishment culturally and legally specific to the Old Testament - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, as a final warning before condemning an errant ADULT son to death. Minor children could not be charged with a criminal offense or civil wrong, as children were assumed under the Law not to be able to form the intent necessary to be able to stand trial. Any anger then was seen as a courtroom gesture, and children could not be taken to court, thus any anger directed at a child is perjury, especially in interrogational format.

Parents are there to please their children, meaning they are beholden to their child's needs and emotions, like waitstaff in a restaurant, serving their children at table, bending over backwards to make sure children are happy. Love for a child is a form of submission, being lawfully and dutifully subject to the righteous demands of their child, being meek and shamefaced in relation to children, with parents and other adults in a child's life being shut up in the Lord, struck with reverent fear and terror for their children, to the point of putting children first, and parents/adults last.

That's all you're there for as a parent - to keep the peace at home by pleasing your child and making sure they are always happy, taking the blame oneself for when children aren't happy, seeking to win them over and make amends, working diligently to please and appease the needs and emotions of children. Children have five basic categories of needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment, with the last of those needs - attachment needs - being the most important.

I myself am conditioned by my Christian faith to appease a child's resentment of me, presuming they have a good reason to resent me, until proven otherwise beyond a reasonable doubt, looking into the child's emotions to see why they are angry or upset with me, and then give evidence calmly and empathetically to reassure any child that is afraid of me or doesn't like me. Even then, though, some children just won't like me, and I have to accept that, and move on, as I am not entitled to children liking me. Respect is not about fear, but about trust, and trust enough to be open with parents about anything. You can respect someone and give them a piece of your mind, and if a parent respects candor from a child, that's one good parent.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!