Let children call the shots: Secure parent-child bond, in policing format

Many parents believe that they call the shots. This is a common misconception about the role of parents in relation to children, and vice versa. The fact of the matter is that children call the shots as to what their needs are, and how they are to be met.

Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, with parents/adults being meek and shamefaced in relation to children, being shut up in the Lord. Parents especially are to esteem their child above all else, putting children first, and parents last, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children then resting securely and safely in parent. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, with parents being attendant caregivers to children, being beholden to the every need of children. This means being able to tell parents anything and everything under the sun, not expecting any punishment or reprisal in return for being honest and open about one's feelings and emotions with parents. Children in biblical times trusted their parents so much that they went naked in front of parents, with this bringing down the level of attachment to the level of the child, with Hebrew and Christian parents then "growing up" with their children. Child nudity also ensured skin-to-skin closeness and bonding.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages, or the slightest of offense perceived by the child, including the slightest of offensive touch and speech. This includes striking and punishing children for any reason. The Apostle Paul was lifting up the Law to the Greek Christians in Colossae concerning their custom of punishing children. Punishing children, under the Law, carried severe penalties, and incurred bloodlust in both the Old and New Testaments. The seven rod verses in the book of Proverbs are repealed verses, meaning they only apply to the context given, as they reference a specific, dated form of judicial corporal punishment conflated with the death penalty in ancient Israel - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, as a final warning before putting an errant ADULT child to death. This happened rarely, and never for any crimes committed against parents. Minor children could not stand trial, and thus they were not held responsible for criminal acts and civil wrongs committed. Anger then was seen as taking up the courtroom exchange, and was only allowed for that purpose in the biblical context, with children being incompetent to stand trial in the exchange.

Children called the shots in biblical times. The goal for any parent in biblical times was a secure parent-child bond, and one with a policing nature. That means children demanded for needs and a redress of grievances, and even gave their own parents parenting advice. This was the established norm of biblical society - children demanded needs and a redress of grievances, and parents surrendered, giving in and giving up.

When children call the shots, they express directly to parents what they need. They do so through what they want, meaning wants either express a need directly, or else point to a need. Attention-seeking behavior means they aren't getting enough attention, and so you gladly take them for a walk and bond with the child, giving them the right kind of attention instead of the wrong kind of attention. Babies cry for attention, older children act out for attention, but the motive in the child is the same. Children advocate for needs on their own, first by crying, then by whining, and then by pouting or rolling eyes. Usually, by the time they are whining or rolling eyes, they simply feel like they aren't being listened to, and so they need to be listened to and have their concerns heard out.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplice! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!