Why tantrums are not bad behavior in children

Many parents believe that temper tantrums are bad behavior in children. This is a common misconception about children. The fact of the matter is that temper tantrums are not bad behavior, but are understandable reactions to stress and grief.

Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and are deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, with parents/adults being meek and shamefaced in relation to children, with parents especially putting their child first, and themselves last, leading to complete dutiful and selfless submission to children from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting from below. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest. This means children should be able to tell parents and show their true emotions to their parents. This means children can cry all they want, and they will not be judged, instead listened to. Attachment parenting was the norm in biblical times, with mothers wrapping up even older children in swaddling blankets, with children resting in the loving arms of parents, with their cries listened to. Children were weaned at around age 3, with even older children clinging to mothers at times, playing freely other times.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to provocations to anger, as defined as the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child victim. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul as prohibiting all forms of punishment and control in parenting, including spanking and other forms of corporal punishment. Paul, here, was admonishing Greek Christian parents for misusing Scripture such as Proverbs to justify their pagan custom of spanking children. The seven verses that mention the rod of correction are repealed passages, as they refer to a dated legal punishment - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction. That punishment was only administered after a criminal conviction for a capital offense. Capital and corporal punishment was not practiced as a part of church discipline in the Early Church, except between spouses, which was too frowned upon.

Why are tantrums not bad behavior? Acting out and throwing tantrums is communication. Children act out and throw fits because they have just as complex of a worldview that an adult does, and thus they have as much to say as an adult does. Thus, children get frustrated when trying to communicate needs, and then throw a tantrum.

Temper tantrums, when connected to the word "no", are a sign of grief, meaning they are brand new to the world, and thus don't handle rejection easily. Handling rejection is a learned skill that comes with life experience.

Children want things from the store for one reason - it comes from YOU, and thus has special significance because of that. Do remember to buy as much goodies for them as possible, as goodies from the store are an attachment need, whenever such goodies are safe and attainable. Anything that comes from YOU, the parent, and fosters bonding, is a need, and buying stuff for your child is like giving a gift to them - it fosters a parent-child bond.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's final resting place! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!