Why policing attachment was the norm in the Bible

Many parents think that they have the right to order their children around and police them. This is a common misunderstanding about biblical parenting. Attachment parenting was the norm in ancient Israel and adjoining churches.

Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, with parents being meek and shamefaced in relation to children. Parents especially are to put their children before themselves in terms of priorities, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, leading to rest and respite in the love and grace of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Attachment parenting was the norm in biblical times, and the normative form of secure attachment was policing attachment. Policing attachment is the deepest of all forms of secure attachment, and involves resting in parents with enough trust that the child feels empowered to order the parents around. Think a child outstretching a stophand, ordering parents around as to what they need and want. Children in biblical times were demanding, and issued lawful and binding orders as to their care and needs to parents, running abusive and/or absentee parents aground, striking reverent fear and terror into parents and other adults with their vulnerability. Think pales of water being held by a mother, with a young child crying for love while nestled next to mother's bosom in swaddling blankets worn over the mother's shoulder and head, and an older child making demands as to what they want for dinner, and the mother trying her best to tend to them both, treating them in accordance to their age and developmental level, following her nature which is the Holy Spirit.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to the slightest of offense perceived by the child, including the slightest of offensive touch or contact perceived by the child. The Apostle Paul here was uplifting the Law to Greek Christians who held onto the pagan ritual of spanking children. Greek Christians quoted Proverbs 13:24 and other verses mentioning the rod of correction, and Paul was pointing to the fact that such verses are repealed verses that reflect a punishment specific to the context - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction. Parents throughout the Roman Empire used specific punishments specifically designated for the local culture of nation-states of Rome. The Jews and Christians were hated for being "easy" and "soft" on their children. Spanking instead comes from ancient Greece, not King Solomon. King Solomon was anti-spanking, and was referring to the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction in his Proverbs.

Children were demanding in biblical times, with children ordering around parents, demanding needs and wants from parents, with parents surrendering to the needs and redress of grievances expressed by their child, giving in and giving up. Usually, a child wants what they need, at least in so many words. If they want candy or toys in the store, it is because it comes from YOU, hence an attachment need. Yes, it comes from your money, but they don't get that at that age - they just see you, and the money coming out, and think it never ends. Either just buy it for them (candy isn't that expensive, is it?) or plan to get it another time, or else simply spend time with them if what they want is off the charts to replace one attachment need with another, more plausible need. 

Children should be expected to demand things from parents, and parents are to keep children happy. The belief in ancient Hebrew and Christian cultures was that if you didn't appease your child and keep them happy, they'd eat you up and run you aground. Parents did not get angry when children turned mean and disrespectful - they cried and accepted their helplessness with their child. Think a child with bared teeth, and a father and a mother crying, incurring the wrath of their child onto themselves. Every parent has a rope, and the end of every parent's rope in biblical times was a ball of tears, not a whip, belt, or open hand. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! There is a grand investigation, and if you are not on the side of children, you are not on the side of God. Catch and capture Satan, then destroy it all! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!