"Honor parents": Understanding the Fifth Commandment (and why it does not allow for authoritarian or authoritative parenting)

Many parents punish and control their children. Such parents use the Fifth Commandment to justify their entitled and abusive conduct towards their children. The argument is that children must obey parents blindly, and without question. Is this the true meaning of the Fifth Commandment? The Fifth Commandment has nothing to do with bossing around a child.

It says in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

This refers mainly to a prohibition against elder abuse, and was the first commandment to take action against the abuse of parents and elders. Merely talking back wasn't seen as dishonoring parents, but instead things such as airborne gaslighting of parents ("sending them on their merry way") and battering of parents. This could also refer to dishonoring the image of parents by committing moral crimes, which reflect on your parents. The Fifth Commandment is for ADULT children to keep, as minor children were not bound by the Law until adulthood.

Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, with parents/adults being meek and shamefaced in relation to children. Parents especially are to put children first, and themselves last, to the point of complete dutiful and selfless submission to the every need of children, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with this being Christian love, denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao). Children should be allowed to rest in relation to children, as this is the Fifth Commandment repeated in the New Testament. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the unconditional Christian love of parents, leading to children honoring the example of a parent, following in the footsteps of their charitable Christian example. This example was backed up by attachment parenting, with mothers wrapping up their children, including older children as old as 10 years, in swaddling blankets, holding her bare naked children to her bosom, with children being weaned at an average age of 3 years. Mothers slept next to their children to lull them to sleep into adulthood, with fathers sleeping next to young women once they became a virgin and thus were marriageable. Mothers slept to young sons until they ventured out on their own at age 13, after their bar mitzvah or legal competency test.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to provocations to anger against children, referring to the command to love your neighbor and not provoke them to anger, with children being seen as your neighbor. "Provocation to anger" is defined as the slightest of offense perceived by the child, including the slightest of unwanted touch, which is child abuse. This was intended by the Apostle Paul and the surrounding legal context in which he was writing from to prohibit corporal punishment and other forms of punishment and control in parenting. Paul here was rebuking Greek Christian parents for misusing Scripture and citing the verses about the rod in Proverbs as an excuse for abuse. The seven verses in Proverbs that depict the rod of correction are repealed verses, as they deal with a dated legal punishment imposed only in the Old Testament - the 40 minus 1 stripes with the rod of correction, which was only intended for ADULT children of Hebrew parents, and only after the case was adjudicated in a criminal court of law.

The Fifth Commandment refers ultimately to the secure rest in relation to parents, in a way that prevents elder abuse. This secure attachment, in biblical times, was policing in nature with minor children. Children felt safe enough in relation to parents to order them around and demand their needs, not mincing their words, with parents giving in and giving up, and children getting most of what they want, and then resting in relation to parents at the last hour, feeling grateful and well care of. This gratitude came with a willingness to take after the example of parents, fearing no punishment from parents, thus genuinely wanting to be like parents. Like parent, like child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punishment or control are predestined to the ever-burning lake of fire and burning sulfur by their own choices! Let them burn in eternal damnation, suffering the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!