Pro-social friendship - Why parents should be best friends with children

Also pro-social confidant. Most parents in this country say "I am their parent, not their friend". Many parents punish children and take controlling and entitled attitudes towards them. But, is it possible to be friends with your child, and their parent at the same time? That's what attachment parenting (AP) is.

Child surrender means run to parents, surrendering to them, thereby making them making parents their best friend, as a reward for Christian love from parents, meaning loving surrender to the every need of children, in the form of mutual surrender. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, warm rest and trust in the love and grace of parents, just as mature believers rest and trust in Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior, having faith in one's parents. Respect for parents is closeness to parents, leading to fondness and admiration for said parents into adulthood. Parents ultimately are a best friend to children, meaning a close confidant for children, whom children can tell anything and everything under the sun to, and expect no punishment or reprisal in return. Children have five categories of needs - water, food, shelter, transportation, and attachment...and attachment is the greatest need of all. Children in ancient Israel and adjoining churches were intensely close to their parents, down to the level of nudity, with children up to the age of 3 being considered infants, and were treated as such, being breastfed as infants. This historical context should help you understand how to befriend your child.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers literally to "stirring up" upset and resentment in children, as in the Jewish idiom of "stirring the pot" regarding your child's emotional welfare. This refers ultimately to offenses against children, meaning the slightest of offense perceived by a child, which included then physical and other forms of punishment. Paul the Apostle was warning Christian parents of Greek descent that punishment and controlling attitudes towards children were unlawful under the Law that Christ died and Rose Again to further expansion of. Corporal punishment was only acceptable under the Law of Moses as a sentence for crime, as a legal warning that one would be put to death if a criminal behavior was repeated. Only adults could be charged under the Law, and only if they were literate of the Law. Children were assumed beyond the shadow of a doubt of being legally incompetent to stand trial, with parents being mandated to apologize for the crimes of their minor children in court. The Apostle Paul handed out attachment parenting manuals alongside giving the Epistle to the Colossians, with the recommended discipline ultimately being self-discipline, meaning the Living Example of Christ. But, since Christ was the only perfect man to walk the earth, parents were to chasten themselves up in a Christ-like way that was selfless in nature.

The friendship between parent and child should not be equal. Parents should be appointed by the child as confidant, with children surrendering to parents by running to them, venting to them their upsets, being able to talk to them about anything, and parents being a listening ear to children/ A parent should be their child's best friends, and among all their friends, the ones they turn to first. Parents should be the older, wiser friend that teaches the younger friend through example, with the child being easily influenced by parental input. Parents should be their child's first friends, and first role models. Parents are the bigger, more powerful friends who should admit their ability to overpower a child, and learn about the needs of that special friend of theirs. All children have special needs, meaning every single child you meet is an individual, not a collective to shove into the corner.

The depraved and entitled parents who rule over their children instead of befriend them will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend forever and ever into the Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's wrath for all eternity! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!