How to prevent temper tantrums

Most all parents deal with it. Temper tantrums, meaning loss of composure for a child, stereotypically because "children want their way". They do, but there is another component to it, and that is the doctrine of mutual listening in parenting. Most temper tantrums are due to lack thereof.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: as is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, warm rest in the love and grace of parents, just as adult believers rest in the warmth and sacrifice of Christ, which all parents are to emulate. Respect for parents is closeness, leading to respect and admiration for parents as older children and adults. Children could be anything in relation to parents in the biblical context, sharing and confiding into parents anything and everything under the sun, without fearing any punishment or reprisal, with children demanding, and their needs being listened to, with parents expecting absolutely nothing in return for their acts of kindness and service to children. Children demanded their needs, but then parents supplied instead of interpreting demands as "bad" or "manipulative", and thus children rested in the warmth and grace of parents, feeling listened to. Children should be able to tell their parents anything, and not be punished, even if it has to be kept secret between parents and children. Children in biblical times were close to their parents, with children up to age 3 being breastfed and otherwise treated behaviorally as infants. Children co-slept in the nude with their mothers until adulthood, with daughters being inseparable with mothers until adulthood.

Temper tantrums were to be listened to under the Law. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stirring up" as in "stirring the pot" regarding your child's emotional welfare. The word refers to offenses against children, meaning the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, which includes corporal punishment and other forms of punishment, control, or harshness. Any time you do not affirm your loving intent by reassuring and validating your child's tears, and instead lash out at your child, you are an abuser. The Apostle Paul was chastising parents of Greek descent in the Colossian church and other churches about their parenting attitudes. Greco-Roman parenting was heavily reliant on punitive measures, such as spanking and whipping of children. Paul would have none of it in the churches he oversaw as a deacon, and gave a command from God lifting up the Law on theft and kidnapping against children. Child abuse was kidnapping then, and seen as worthy of death by Christians then even as Christ abolished the death penalty by enduring it. Corporal punishment was only used in the Old Testament, and as a sentence for crime, meaning as a last warning before an offender was put to death, with the father being a punitive accessory of the state to the child. Christ died to end all violence of any kind, including capital and corporal punishment. Only adults could be charged with a crime, as children couldn't stand trial. The Apostle Paul handed out attachment parenting manuals that taught Christian parents in Colossae the proper way to parent, which involved the Living Example of Christ, meaning charity and generosity towards children, in order to teach them such values. The idea here is that, in the midst of a temper tantrum, parents listened to the upset of their child.

Stonewalling is refusing to listen to the needs of another person, including a child, usually in a way that leads to them being irrational in their expression, with children throwing a temper tantrum. Women in the 18th and 19th Centuries were hysterical, and that is because their husbands and fathers wouldn't listen to them, but especially their father. The idea is to listen to your child's reasons for being upset. You may not agree with their reasoning, but hear them out anyway, and reassuringly state your loving presence, and have open dialogue beforehand so when they are older, they can just tell you directly what they need, and you supply. What they need picked up at the store, what they plan to order at the restaurant, and so forth. Sometimes, they just need time with you. Maybe that's why they want to eat out so often, or go for scenic drives so often. You, the parent, are the reason for their every demand, as you are to give everything to your child, expecting absolutely nothing in return, in the spirit that Christ gave everything to His children through His Sacrifice.

The depraved and entitled parents who refuse to listen to their children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!