What is love?: How to love your child (and why most parents don't)

What is love? Many parents misuse this word a lot. I, admittedly, have misused it for other reasons, which I share in other posts. Most parents don't know what love is, yet they claim to love their child. Most adults do not love their children.

Every single adult is guilty merely for existing in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for said existence in relation to children, leading to conviction by way of reverent terror and fear, leading to sacrificial surrender to the every need of children as their enemy, just as mankind is the enemy of God, with parents and adults having to pay due penance for being an adult in relation to children, as to God. This leads to good works that put the rights and needs of children above one's own, expecting absolutely nothing in return, being and feeling grateful for the fruits of one's labor. This is love, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao). 

It says in Matthew 25:35-40 KJV:

Then which of them, which was a lawyer, asked him a question, tempting him and saying, Master, which is the greatest commandment in the law? Jesus said unto them, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and all thy soul, and all thy mind. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. On these two commandments hang the law and the prophets.

The Greek root word here translated "love" is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao). "As thyself" refers to an inverse comparison, meaning you are to put others first by putting yourself in their shoes, pretending for second that your neighbor is you. Would you like being treated that way? Children are our neighbor as adults, and the one we wronged, meaning we ultimately are their enemy, with parents and other adults seeking to be friends with a child, winning over their trust and friendship. 

Love is to be practiced in mutual surrender format, meaning parents love their children without expecting any in return. Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: as is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, warm rest in the love and grace of parents, but in a policing and enforcing manner. This means children in biblical times gave lawful and binding orders to parents as to their needs, being demanding of their parent, and parents in the Judeo-Christian context, including the 1st Century Christian culture, simply surrendered to their children's needs. Children went in the nude right up until adulthood in ancient Israelite culture and adjoining churches, and that was because mothers would co-sleep and snuggle with children while nude themselves, in the form of skin-to-skin contact, which was used to create closeness which lead to respect later.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to "stirring up" upset and resentment in children, as in the Jewish adage of "stirring the pot" regarding your child's emotional welfare. This referred to the offenses, with a "provocation to anger" meaning any perceived offense or trespass against one's person, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child. This was meant by Paul the Apostle to include corporal punishment and other forms of punitive parenting, as the Hellenistic Christians in the Colossian church relied heavily on punishment to raise their children. Paul would have none of it in the churches he oversaw as a deacon, and so a divinely inspired letter was written with intent to convict pro-spanking parents of their evil ways. The Apostle then handed out attachment parenting manuals. They read much like Eph. 6:4 in context (also an anti-spanking verse), but in expanded form, meaning children needed parents to impart a disciplined example, meaning the Living Example of Christ, and warn children when they are behaving in an unsafe way, and pretty much only then, except when a petition from a child was completely unattainable, and warnings were to be imparted with empathy and without punishment or control, with lawful orders not being binding except in the reverse - children were extensions of God in the family home, as the "least of these" (Matt. 25:31-46). Children were feared and revered in biblical times, striking reverent terror in the complacent or abusive parent towards their needs.

Love is service to your neighbor, meaning caring for your neighbor by way of putting their needs first and yours last. This means children first, parents last. Children are the neighbor parents serve, and so you put your child first, and you last. Love is a verb, not an emotion or a passion, and means good works for children in the case of parenting.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God, for they hate their child and do not love them! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's final resting place! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!