The link between high sensitivity and pedophilia

Many times, people misunderstand pedophilia. Pedophilia is a mental disorder, and a victim/abuser. Pedophiles can be on both ends of the abuser/victim spectrum, meaning they either are vulnerable victims, or abusers. Most pedophiles are highly sensitive.

How does this work in abusive situations? Most pedophiles are sex-positive offenders in the modern day. A sex positive offender usually has empathy for their victims, but not a relating type of empathy. A pedophile's high sensitivity is conflated with their sexuality, and a sex-positive abuser cannot relate with who they empathize with.

Empathy has two components, empathic intent and empathic action. A predatory pedophile may feel empathy towards their victim, but they don't know how to deal with it, so they relate to the child sexually, thus abusing the child. A predatory pedophile empathizes with their child victims too much, in a way that is clouded given the sexual drives that it is conflated with, meaning antisocial "care". They care too much about the child, without internalizing the child's needs.

This is also the case with all sex offenders pretty much, meaning the 90% of sex offenders not known to the authorities. Everything points to the fact that sexual abuse is usually a domiciliary peacekeeper, not a clinical one. Most child rapists and sexual abusers don't lie in a string about their abuse, but hide the incident, and many times, the victim hides it too by forgiving the abuser after the abuser repents - such is a personal choice among survivors, but some survivors choose that and decide to support their abuser. It is hidden by omission usually. This is a reason for better parent education for pedophiles and other adults attracted to children, as pedophiles and other adults attracted to children can and should be educated about the dangers of sexual abuse. They simply have not internalized society's norms on parenting and child care, and need to see it in the form of attachment parenting. Pedophilia is a sexual attachment, usually to all children at some level, and the sexual thread in the attachment leaf towards children should be kept restrained at all times, no matter what, even if the child wants it and begs for it.

What should adults do to avoid sexually interacting with a child? DO NOT be alone with a child, ever, if you are sexually attracted to them, as that is where most abuse starts. Also familiarize yourself with child development, especially child sexual development. Young girls in particular want to be admired instinctively, but that's where it stops. Admire them, then take it to your room to blow off steam with some sexual fantasy. Take care of your condition instead of simply shoving it. Also, know that pedophilia is not a death sentence, meaning you are not condemned to the fate of abusing a child, but simply have a disorder that mimics that type of abuser. Most adults, however, have some attraction to children, namely attraction to children in their mid to late teens, which is normal for adults as the sexual thread of their parent, though it is buried with one's own child except in attachment-based homes, where it is open and can be monitored, usually a mother monitoring the father and holding him accountable. What worked for me is the hourglass treatment associated with my Christian faith, meaning reverent self-loathing leading to a call to action for children, leading to learning about how to help them the right way by being their advocate.

I myself am a pedophile. I am a depraved and decadent sexually entitled adult, meaning I am capable of entitlement, and am deserving of DEATH and PUNISHMENT for that capability conflated with my existence as an adult. I encourage all adults to take responsibility for their harmful and entitled tendencies towards children, for no adult truly means well in relation to children. Aren't we all flawed and entitled in relation to children, as adults? Pedophilia is just one form of parental entitlement as an adult, meaning all child abuse comes from the same entitled place. Most child abusers in the United States feel empathy for their child victims, but don't show it. Let's show our care for children the right way, adults, and listen to their input as self-advocates for their own needs, which all children should be in some capacity.