Divorce: Why it is sometimes necessary for the welfare of children

Is spanking banned? It can be in Pennsylvania legally, in a divorce situation. Under Pennsylvania law, parents can issue a no-spanking order for the adversarial spouse in the divorce. Our law here allows for a wife to sign away the marriage from the husband, and vice versa. What does God have to say about this? He's okay with it to discourage and avoid domestic violence, meaning any entitlement imposed on a wife whatsoever.

I myself am an Anabaptist Christian, meaning I am supposed to view instant divorce as a form of hardened heart, but that type of divorce rarely occurs under the state laws we have for divorce in this country - too much of a hassle. Divorce of a woman is to be reserved for a irreparable marriage. It says in 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 KJV:

And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or else reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

My mother had a controlling husband, meaning my father, and he was controlling verbally and symbolically. She spent the first 16 years of my life gathering enough evidence for a divorce. A divorce was usually the penalty for a pro-spanking father in biblical times.

Wives are not even expected God to love their husband. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Wives, submit yourself unto your own husbands, as is fit in the Lord. Husbands, love your wife, and be not bitter against them.

The Greek root word translated "love" is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to worldly dutiful and selfless to one's wife, being convicted one's sin nature in relation to her, and his strength over her, leading to surrender to the every vulnerable need of the wife, putting her before his own needs, being charitable and generous towards her. This kind of obligation is not given to the wife in this passage, with wives surrendering mutually in relation to husbands by the Greek root word υποτασσο (Latin: hupotasso) and refers to reverence leading to willful submission to the needs of one's husband, referring to a form of reverent trust that leads to her resting in the love and headship of husbands. Male authority does not exist. Headship refers to how much money you make, not keeping women "in line". She is to come to that submissive position herself, and she is not to be required to even love her husband. Wives then were simply wooed and flattered by the charity of their husbands, in a reverent way. Women flocked to Christian churches from more repressive Greco-Roman homes, fleeing domestic violence, with the Christian churches giving victims of domestic violence asylum, meaning both women and child victims of domestic abuse.

We note this because parenting is setup roughly the same way, only surrender to parents is based more on closeness than mutual accountability. Husbands held their wife accountable with verbal lawful and binding orders, usually with "I forbid" statements timed to her cooperation. Wives could issue lawful and binding orders as well, with this usually being to protect the children from abuse, and that kind of lawful and binding order could be backed up by divorce. Husbands were not to divorce their wives, ever, so they just had to work with their wife and her willingness to cooperate, and that's just how the cookie crumbled. Children had even greater authority from beneath, and could single-handedly give a lawful and binding order to parents, with parents not being able to issue such orders to children, meaning a child could advocate for themselves in an abusive situation, and that was usually communicated in a tearful way that reeked of abuse. Any cry of abuse often led to divorce, and such was an acceptable reason to divorce your husband if you were a wife then. Husbands could not divorce a wife, nor could they stop a divorce. Many times, mothers merely threatened divorce, and that's all that was needed - her man was kept in line.

Let the depraved men who abuse their families BURN in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!