"Back talk": Why talking back to parents is allowed

Many parents want to be respected, in a way that they don't want children challenging them when they disagree with parents. However, there is no reason why talking back to parents is prohibited in the Bible.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest and trust in the love and grace of parents, coming from sacrificing for one's child, in the spirit that Christ sacrificed for His children; taking up the cross for one's child, in the spirit that Christ sacrificed for His children; martyring oneself in everything, with children resting securely in the love and grace of parents. This Greek root word ultimately uplifts the traditional Judeo-Christian parenting customs, which were attachment-based in nature. Child nudity was the norm in ancient Hebrew culture and adjoining churches, and this was so that children could get skin-to-skin contact and breastfeeding from their mothers, with the mothers also being unclothed within the home. This command does not prohibit back talk from children, and, in fact, encourages it. Policing attachment is a form of attachment where, especially with older children, demands as needs were expressed by children oftentimes as commands, with parents heeding the lawful and binding orders of children, giving up the fight, only saying "no" when absolutely necessary, such as in "No, my dear, we can't go out to McDonald's because it is snowing and the governor closed the roads", then listen and validate any upset or tantrum from the denied request. Let them beat you up if they have to, and listen by taking the blows. Policing attachment is when a child is allowed to demand requests from their parents however they want, oftentimes by ordering parents arounds, with parents being like a vending machine. By the biblical understanding, the role of therapist or counselor is a parental role, and the transference you find in a therapeutic relationship is one you find between parents and children in biblical, attached homes.

The Greek root word translated ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) literally translates to "stirring up" upset and resentment in children, referencing the Jewish adage of "stirring the pot" in terms of your child's emotional well-being. This was a direct command from God through the Apostle Paul to prohibit any form of punishment or harsh treatment of a child, including corporal punishment. Paul's target audience was Greco-Roman parishioners who brought their spanking traditions into the church community. Paul would have none of it in the churches he oversaw. He also handed out attachment parenting manuals that advised parents to use a specific sort of attachment parenting that relied on a Christ-like example for parents in relation to their children, and Christ-like, gentle warning that spares the child. Parents were to sacrifice as Christ did, rendering themselves mere indentured servants for their child's every need. 

Back talk was expected from children then, in the form of reverent rebellion, meaning policing attachment. Children gave the orders, petitioning for their needs and a redress of grievances, and parents providing to the best of their ability in response to the child's lawful demands, leading to the child feeling grateful and doted upon, with the child giving back to parents in due time. Usually, such children are grateful, in a comfortable way, being able to tell parents anything, in whatever word order they they want, and parents will understand, or try to. This was the parenting layout of the Bible. Children demanded, parents supplied, and as long as that order was in place, parent and child lived together in harmony.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death intended by God for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!