Pro-social permissiveness: Why parents shouldn't set rules for their children

Most parents make rules for their children, often punishing children in the progress. It is a given that "children must follow the rules" but should they really? A good Christian home has no rules or expectations, but instead preferences for children's behavior that are compelling to children due to good treatment of children.

The Tenth Commandment is denoted by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to parental entitlement, or wanting children to meet certain standards to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child, with perceived offense being defined as child abuse under Divine Codified Jurisprudence. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke nor your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "children" is τεκνον (Latin: teknon) and refers to a childhood or early adulthood dependence in parents, just as mature believers are dependent in Christ. The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to a relational surrender, not a legalistic one. The Greek root word υποτασσο (Latin: hupotasso) and refers to militant-type submission, meaning coming to revere an authority figure due to its might in protecting you, to the point of willful surrender to said authority. Parenting is different in the Bible, meaning there are no rules for children, only preferences. Parents are to sacrifice for children just as Christ sacrificed for His children, turning themselves in to their children, worshipping their child as an extension of God (see Matt. 25:31-46), being a giving, charitable extension of Christ, tearing themselves down for their children as Christ did on the cross for His children...and then children rest in gratitude and thanksgiving for the martyrdom and sacrifice of parents. The Greek root word υπακουο ultimately uplifts an attachment parenting context that was traditional to Judeo-Christian society in the 1st Century, with children being naked and running around playing, but in the supervision of mothers, with their nudity being there for skin-to-skin contact with children, with mothers also being unclothed within the family home. Young infants were put in swaddling clothes, and swaddled to their mother until age 3, meaning children until age 3 were seen as infants, and were breastfed and nourished as such. 

The Greek root word translated "parents" is γονεύς (Latin: goneus) and doesn't refer to a lawmaker or lawgiver, but a caregiver, meaning parents were not authority figures in biblical times, but instead were heads of their children, meaning they were leaders of their children, following their children as to their needs, attending with care to the every vulnerable need of children. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stirring up" upset and resentment in children, as in the Jewish adage of "stirring the pot". Basically, the slightest of personal offense, coming from entitlement, is abuse, meaning when you impose a want or need onto a child, such as the need to control or sexually "bond", and the child is offended by it, it is an offense, thus abuse. The Apostle Paul also handed out parenting manuals that recommended attachment parenting in the form of Christian example, meaning children weren't given a list of rules to follow, but a Christ-like example in a parent as a role model. This meant that children then weren't disciplined directly, but were given an example, and occasionally gentle nudged in the right direction by God's loving instruction (see Eph. 6:4). The parenting handbook, under church ordinances, stated that children were legal extensions of God, demanding their vulnerable needs and benign wants, with parents being giving extensions of Christ, with Christ being the giving aspect of God, just as Christ did when He walked the earth. The parenting manual did not mince words about expectations of fathers especially not to sexually abuse and corrupt their children, with pedophilia and other attraction to children being seen as a part of parenting, meaning an open struggle in a parent, not a closeted one where it can fester into something really toxic. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger by punitive attitudes towards parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and His accomplices! You will burn forever and ever, dear parents, if you keep going down this dark path! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!