Lying in children: Why parents are to blame

Many parents deal with it almost daily. They cannot believe a word coming out of their children's mouth. Their child lies through the wazoo. But, why do they lie? They have something to hide. But, they hide for a reason - to avoid persecution. 

Children lie due to the fact that punishment doesn't work. It only teaches children how to lie to get out of trouble, by creating that survival need. Usually, either the children that lie the most or are truthful the most are the ones arrested by the juvenile division of your local law enforcement agency (LEA). I myself was a truthful teenager, to the point of speaking my own mind, to the point of saying insensitive things that offended others, or else engaging in an insensitive course of conduct that offended others. I was an offense/offended narcissist, meaning I offended others, but couldn't take it in return, meaning a snowflake. I would instead hide intent when I wanted to, say, visit a girl's house, and since I always told the truth, people never suspected I would omit anything. Other children deal with things differently, and lie in order to get out of trouble. So, why should they be in trouble anyway?

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, being able to share anything and everything under the sun with parents. This is an environment where parents sacrifice for their children, in the spirit that Christ sacrificed for His children; taking up the cross for one's children, in the spirit that Christ sacrificed for His children, martyring oneself for one's children in all things, expecting absolutely nothing in return, just as Christ wanted nothing in return when Rising on the Third Day...and then children rest in the love and grace of parents, and can tell parents anything, expecting no punishment in return. The Greek root word υπακουο ultimately uplifts the attachment parenting traditions of ancient Israel, where children as old as age 3 were seen as infants, and were treated as such, being breastfed as such. Child nudity was legal everywhere, and was seen as a sign of vulnerability, with mothers being nude in the house alongside the children. Secure attachment was very close in ancient Judeo-Christian culture, to the level of nudity. That was the level of intimacy children had with mothers. Fathers and mothers both encouraged reverent rebellion, meaning thinking for themselves and questioning parents and other adults, many times in the form of rebellious speech, which was to be expected in children of a certain age. Children could say anything, and order parents around, and parents would be selfless enough to listen, without punishment or control. In such an environment, a child wouldn't lie, but would err on the side of honesty.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to "stirring up" upset and resentment in children, referencing the Jewish adage of "stirring the pot" in regards to your child's emotional well-being. This was a commandment from God through the Apostle Paul to ban all corporal punishment, and any punishment whatsoever. Punishing a child was acceptable in Greco-Roman culture, but not in Judeo-Christian culture. Instead, Paul handed out attachment parenting manuals, with the mandate that churches everywhere on planet earth had to become in compliance with church ordinances. Basically, the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child is child abuse under Divine Codified Statutes.

Children who lie are afraid of being punished, so don't punish, and allow them to say anything and everything to you. Encourage them to set you straight when you are wrong, and then admit you are wrong, to their face. The Apostle Paul and other church leaders then saw children as mirrors of an adults attitudes. If you can't admit you are wrong to them, they will never admit they are wrong to you. Respect for parents is like being a mirror and shining their flaws into their face, whether they want to see it or not. Parents often defend themselves and are dishonest that way, and so I defended myself the same way. If a child lies, that means they don't feel safe admitting they are wrong. In order to allow them to admit fault, you must be willing to listen and validate, and then reward and thank them for coming forward about what really happened. Usually, they will be in tears, and see you as their sole confidant, not being able to tell anyone else. 

Children don't lie except to get out of punishment, so why punish them when you can simply set a good example for them, and have a healthy parent-child bond with them, with children feeling safe being able to admit to wrongdoing, and maybe even ask questions as to why certain behavior is wrong, thinking for themselves. All children need is good role models, meaning from their parents first. Parents are extensions of Christ in the family home, and are to give a Christ-like example to children, meaning a selfless one. Children naturally listen to role-models through the atmosphere, meaning children are instinctively wired to take after their parents, for good or for bad, so be on your best behavior, at least when around children, and be disciplined and chastened up in your attitude towards life, but in a loving and merciful way that Christ was.

Let the depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to lying behavior burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's final resting place! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!