"Love despite flaws": Why God wants you to love your child for their flaws

Many parents believe that their children have flaws, and thus should be shown their flaws and punished for them. Many parents misunderstand what love is, otherwise they'd find that they don't love their children, but simply have affection for them.

It says in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 KJV:

Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoke, thinketh no evil, Rejoiceth not in inequity, but rejoiceth in the truth. Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth: whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.

The Greek root word translated "charity" is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to Christian love, namely being convicted out of reverent fear to surrender to God through one's child, turning away from sin and abuse, being in full and dutiful submission to the every vulnerable need of a child as their enemy, seeking to be their friend, just as mankind is the enemy of God, with parents paying due penance to children, just as to God, with children being the "least of these" that are extensions of God Himself, expecting absolutely nothing in return, being and feeling grateful for the good done for children.

Love is seeing things through God's optics, meaning never punish them for their flaws, just as God never punishes His children for their flaws. God loves all His adopted children FOR their flaws, and seeks to empower change in them, on their own accord. God loves His children despite their flaws, and so should parents towards their child. Love is providing for a child just for the sake of providing for a child, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Fifth Commandment, in full, commands mutual submission between parent and child. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and literally translates to "rest under" and refers to, here, parents sacrificing themselves for their children, just like Christ did for His children; taking up the cross, in the spirit that Christ did for His children; martyring oneself for one's child, just as Christ did for His children, with children resting in the love and grace of parents, just as Christ's Church, His children, rest securely in His presence and providence. The Greek root word υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) uplifts a biblical parenting context that is attachment-based, in terms of rest in parents. Mothers especially were close to their children, to the point of nudity. Going out and about, mothers wore just a quick dress and nothing else underneath, with infants and toddlers up to age 3 swaddled to her bosom, with children co-sleeping next to her into adulthood, with mothers wearing no clothing in the home. This illustrates how close God wants parents to be to their children. Mothers and fathers saw themselves as martyrs for their children, in the spirit that Christ martyred Himself for His children. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stirring up" anger, resentment, and upset in children, namely "stirring the pot" in terms of the emotions of one's child. God handed down, through the Apostle Paul, a church ban on spanking in the Christian Church. In Greco-Roman culture, parents relied heavily on corporal punishment, beating children for misbehaviors, and spanking teenage girls for "impurity". The slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, linked to parental entitlement, is abuse according to this moral statute. This was all laid down in a secular pamphlet about proper teaching and discipline of children from Church leadership, including the Apostle Paul, in Greek and Hebrew. Basically, parents were charged to be extensions of Christ in the home, sacrificing their convenience and providing for children, expecting absolutely nothing in return. 

Being an extension of Christ, for young children in relation to mothers, meant closeness to the level of sustenance, with children shielded from blame and punishment by parents, and parents taking responsibility whenever possible to the higher Roman authorities for their children, just like Christ to His children. Children were seen as flawed, but in a delightful way, even when they were demanding. Mothers then just laughed it off, and so did fathers.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn and suffer in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!