Gratitude in parenting: Why parents are to be grateful first

Many parents want children to be grateful. These parents punish their children oftentimes for ingratitude, and tell them "be grateful". However, gratitude is something you model to a child, not punish them for not having.

Every single adult is guilty in relation to a child, and is to be convicted with reverent fear to surrender to God through their children, giving up adult power and control at their footstool, surrendering to children as their enemy, giving up the fight, just as mankind is the enemy of God and is to submit to Him as such, with parents/adults paying due penance to children, as to God likewise, expecting absolutely nothing in return, being grateful for all one's toil and good works in relation to children. Gratitude is an aspect of Christian love, denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao). It is the rewarding feeling for sacrificing as a parent, like a paycheck for being a good, loving parent, which is rare these days.

The rewards for kind, attached parenting says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest and trust in the love and grace of parents, with parents sacrificing for their children, just as Christ did for His children; Taking up the cross for their children, just as Christ took up the cross for His children; martyring yourself in all things regarding parenting...with children resting securely in said sacrifice and martyrdom of parents, showing gratitude and thanksgiving for the kind and grateful treatment of parents, with parents grateful for their children instead of showing ingratitude through punishment. The Greek root word υπακουο uplifts the attachment parenting context of the Bible. Child nudity was legal all through the biblical context, and that was so that mothers could easily sleep next to their children and bond with them using skin-to-skin contact, with them also being unclothed in the home. Children up to age 3 were swaddled to the bosom of mothers, including underneath a loose dress women wore when leaving the home, which was more common in the Early Christian context. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stirring up" upset and resentment in children, referring to the Jewish adage of "stirring the pot". This commandment from God, through the Apostle Paul, was a divine command against any sort of punishment against a child, including corporal punishment. Basically, the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child was considered child abuse then, thus sin now. Greco-Roman parenting relied heavily on domestic corporal punishment against children, whereas Judeo-Christian family values then were based in attachment parenting and secure attachment. Paul also handed out attachment parenting manuals, where women were expected to hold their children close, and fathers also commanded to avoid temptations of pedophilia/adult sexual entitlement with their daughters especially, especially in relation to their mothers (Lev. 18:17), as mothers and daughters were inseparable, even in locational terms. Fathers in 1 Cor, 7:36 were told to marry off their daughters early to avoid incest and sexual abuse, with this today being a Divine Affirmation to the primary prevention of child sexual abuse, which was a colloquial topic then among menfolk, even in first-person, in a safety-first tone. Today, this means not being alone with a child you are attracted to, and maybe avoiding any contact with them if you think you might do something to them. Gratitude was to be expressed by more wholesome attitudes and acts of kindness towards children, like praise and thanks for even being in the life of parents, or holding hands, valuing children as extensions of God on earth (Matt. 25:31-46).

Parents are to be grateful for their children, mainly by feeling it, and being happy. Happiness is a virtue for parents to keep, and is to be met by denying yourself self-esteem as a parent, knowing your wicked nature in relation to children, then being grateful for all the good you do despite that wicked nature.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn and suffer in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's final resting place! Let them descend forever and ever into everlasting Hell-fire! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!