Adult fawning: A sign of total acceptance of your child (pro-social ragdoll, pro-social punching bag)

What is fawning? Think a child who you can lead anywhere, is always compliant, always listens, and never complains about anything. This should only be an outward appearance in a securely attached home, meaning children save all their energy and frustration for parents at home. Fawning is something associated with children, but an adult can learn to chip away at their entitlement, and fawn for their child.

Total acceptance is a place you find yourself in relation to a child as an attachment parenting adult. I myself am a pedophile, meaning I have the disorder, and have to work on healthy detachment from children. Think of the pushover type of adult, and feel beholden to children to the level of guilt, and that's my entitlement, since when a child is angry with me, I feel like the world is going to end. Today, I would be more assertive, usually saying "I don't want to" in place of "no". Pro-social ragdoll means you fawn for your child, meaning you let them drag you everywhere. I literally can't see them as like a ledge over, but like being a friend. 

This concept is found in the Bible, in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and literally translates to "rest under", referring to secure, vulnerable rest and trust in the love and grace of parents. Parents are sacrificial extensions of Christ in the home, and martyrs for their children. Parents are to sacrifice for their children in the spirit the Christ sacrificed for their children, taking up the cross, rendering oneself beneath one's child, devaluing oneself as caregivers and servants towards one's child, with parent expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting in this sacrifice as legal extensions of God, demanding and lawfully ordering their needs from children, using righteously their parents for needs and benign wants, with parents happily yet selflessly providing for their children's every need. In ancient Jewish culture, including in the Early Christian context, children were close to their mothers, swaddled to her bosom or back until age 3, with co-sleeping being the norm up until then, with parent-child intimacy in that regard being to the level of nudity, with said nudity being seen as vulnerable, and any man who sexually objectified or mocked it was ousted as a fornicator (see Eph. 5:4). Mothers just needed a way to easily cuddle with their children. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and roughly translates to the Jewish adage of "stirring the pot" regarding your child's emotional welfare, literally translating to "stirring up". This refers to corporal punishment. Roman parents relied heavily on spanking and whipping children, whereas Christian parents, like their Jewish predecessors, were attachment-based. God, through the Apostle Paul, with the Judeo-Christian tradition of attachment parenting being sacrificial for parents, which both fathers and mothers embraced martyrdom, going down and giving up their freedom for their children, beholden to their child in every way imaginable and unimaginable. The slightest of personal offense perceived by the child was seen as a provocation to anger, thus child abuse, thus sin. Children decide who is the abuser, based on their own perceptions and instincts about an adult. The adult should be the one fawning for the child, not the reverse, with fawning possibly being testimony against a parent or other adult.

Fawning in today's culture is a childhood emotional expression, and is a sign of sexual abuse in particular. In biblical times, however, it was the reverse element. Children were seen as bigger for being needier and more demanding in such, meaning children issued orders and demands as they got older to their parents, with parents being safe people to keep such orders and empathize with their child even as they treated their mother or father like a punching bag. Parents fawned, meaning humbled themselves as human ragdolls and punching bags, shutting up and being silent around children, reverently fearing children and their needs, being convicted to serve their needs, giving without receiving. A 1st Century Christian mother would respond to a child being aggressive by laying down and enduring to the point of tears, which is when most children stop. 

Parents were expected to take up the cross in their parenting style, like Christ did for His children, following in Christ's footsteps in terms of selflessness, charity, and generosity. Parents were to model Christ-like behavior by serving their children selflessly, just as Christ served His children selflessly, asking absolutely nothing from children, just as Christ asked for no gifts to His altar as He was to be executed by the Romans, suffering a gruesome death fitted for a criminal, for a crime He didn't commit. Parents should strive to this selfless and sacrificial ideal, instead of demanding their child be selfless for them and their purview. We as adults are to be martyrs for children.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let the evildoers against children burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's final resting place! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!