Why getting angry with your child is a sin

Many parents feel like they have the right to be angry and resentful with their child. Do parents have the right to punish a child out of anger, even when taking "a deep breath" (like my ex-abusive father did)? Absolutely not. Getting angry with a child is sin.

It says in Matthew 5:21-22 KJV:

Ye have heard it was said of them of old time, Thou shalt not kill, and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment: but I say unto you, that whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause is in danger of judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of Hell-fire.

"whosoever is angry with his brother" referring to expressed anger and resentment. "without a cause" refers to the fact that the beforementioned anger is extrajudicial in nature, as the Greek root word translated "council" is συνέδριον (Latin: sunerdrion) and refers to the Sanhedrin, or a council of either 23 or 71 judges, and there had to be 2/3 agreement to condemn a defendant to a whipping before being executed - that same whipping is what is mentioned for ADULT children in Proverbs and Hebrews. In the Early Christian context, every man had his own courtroom, as is the case today with your neighbor. Any anger outside of court was considered sin then, meaning a reason to take the angry person to court. Anger basically meant, then, that you wanted to challenge your neighbor to a legal exchange, and otherwise Jews and Christians both were to keep their composure. 

The terms of righteous judgment in the biblical context decide whether children can stand trial or not. They couldn't then. It says in John 7:24 KJV:

Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.

The Greek root words translated "judge" and "judgment" is κνιρο (Latin: krino) and refers to righteous judgment, meaning legal judgment, and this included legal defenses such as the defense of infancy. The defense of infancy applies to all children who are legally illiterate as to the Law, meaning they have not mastered the Law yet.

The Bible instead teaches mutual submission between parents and children. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to providing custody, meaning children rest as parents provide for their every need, with children being able to be themselves and demand needs, with parents supplying needs that the child demands, with children owing nothing in relation to children, but nonetheless listening to their voice out of reassurance, following their example. Parents are not to be angry at a child, lest they provoke anger in a child, as denoted by the Greek root word ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to "stirring up", referring to "stirring the pot" in terms of your child's emotions, referring to the offenses under the Law, meaning under the Eighth Commandment precisely. This refers, by extension to, torts and damages such as assault and battery laws, meaning the slightest of offense perceived by the child is abuse, when coming from entitled intent to control, and that includes the slightest of physical touch that is unwanted by the child plaintiff. Signs of abuse include a cry that a mother would identify readily as coming from abuse, or a power struggle that might be defended by a parent. 

The Apostle Paul was referring to harsh punishment such as spanking imposed on children by Greek newcomer parents, setting the Law down, which didn't need to be clarified in the Old Testament due to strength of attachment parenting tradition, which involved swaddling infants to the bosom of their mother until age 3, and played freely in close range to mothers until then.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death where the evil one will be laid to rest! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!