Why benign wants they are also needs (avoiding benign deprivation tactics)

Many parents believe in the concept of benign deprivation, meaning saying "no" when not necessary. Most parents do not see the value in benign wants for children, and why benign wants are also needs for children. There is usually no reason to use the word "no" at all in a properly set up household.

The doctrine of mutual submission is central to Christian parenting. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, as this is right. Honor thy father and mother, as this is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live along the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to providing custody, meaning secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, with children being able to be themselves in relation to parents, telling them everything, not fearing any punishment or reprisal from parents, with parents supplying needs demanded, bearing the brunt, and children owing absolutely nothing in return to parents, but nonetheless show gratitude and thanksgiving by emulating the example and teachings of parents, with parents being an extension of Christ, with children being legal extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the word "no" or its various variants, meaning all limits and boundaries with a child. In a good Christian household, the word "no" should be used rarely, and should not be backed up by any form of punishment. Otherwise, the admonition of the Lord involves God's loving compromise, meaning compromising with your child instead of getting into a power struggle, just giving them what they want if it isn't harmful or immoral, or else simply making a deal with them, and when they don't hold up to their end of the deal, cutting them a break, knowing they can't make that kind of a deal yet. The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to the chastening of the Lord, or a parent chastening themselves up in the Lord in relation to their crying or otherwise upset child, listening to the child, becoming more restraining in their physical or sexual response to the crying, with the child then afterwards growing in self-control themselves as they get older. This form of discipline is weighed by the Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath", which is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and literally translates to "bitter anger" and refers to punitive or negligent acts, but mainly punitive in this context, that embitter children. Ultimately, this, alongside all of Col. 3:21, refers to the offenses in the legal context of the Bible, meaning the torts and damages system under the Eighth commandment, namely assault and battery laws which prohibited striking a child as well as an adult. Basically, this commandment deemed the slightest of offense perceived by the child, when coming from entitlement, is child abuse, including any dereliction of parental duties nonetheless. 

In the ancient Jewish culture, benign wants were seen as needs by parents. Children were allowed to demand anything from parents, and parents were to supply the every need of children, with benign wants that were attainable from the parent given, or else compromised by God's loving compromise. Rarely were children told "no", so that the word meant something, and then children listened to the voice of their parents if they understood what was asked of them. Or else, mothers supervised, and kept children away from risk of death or serious bodily injury. Simply saying "no" for the sake of saying "no" then was seen as benign deprivation, and a form of provoking a child to anger willfully, thus abuse. Children are to get everything they need, which includes a great deal of what they want. Yes, take them to the park every day after school. They are only little once.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into the abyss, and be tormented in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's final resting place! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!