Should trauma survivors forgive their parents?

The core of the pro-spanking message is "forgiveness", meaning a parent's "right" to be forgiven by their children. Most gentle parents at the movement level, at least, are estranged from their parents. Is this a big sin? No, it isn't, in fact.

It says in Matthew 6:14-15 KJV:

For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive men not their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

The Greek root word translated "forgive" is παραπτομα (Latin: paraptoma) and refers to legal trespasses, meaning the offenses in the legal context of the Bible. This is linked to righteous judgment. It says in John  7:24 KJV:

Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.

The Greek root word translated "judge" and "judgment" is κρινο (Latin: krino) and refers to the judgment standards endorsed under the Law, with the word uplifting the legal context of the Bible in terms of moral legal judgment. This means the presumption of innocence beyond a reasonable doubt, with superficial suspicion. In the case of an offense from a parent, such can be declared on the spot, with the parent having to defend the charges in a credible way that got them out of trouble. This includes any behavior that males one feel uncomfortable or unsafe. 

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to providing custody under the Law, meaning rest in the love and grace of parents, with parents providing for children selflessly and dutifully, being generous to their children. For an adult survivor, it means trust for a parent that has earned that trust. Honoring parents is not mandatory if they have not earned your trust. The gist of this Greek word is that you should have rested in the safety of your parents, and owe absolutely nothing in return to parents. Thus, you owe them no forgiveness or praise just for them being your parents. Everything a parent gets from a child, they earn. If they don't earn it, they don't deserve it. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) refers to the offenses in the Bible, meaning the slightest of offense perceived by the child, coming from parental entitlement. The Greek root word translated "they become discouraged" is απυμέω (Latin: athumeo) which refers to long term trauma, namely post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD), Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD), or personality disorders. In biblical times, it was when parents were so harsh with their children, that said children disowned them as adults, which brought the parents to shame, not the child.

In ancient Israel, parents were to be mere caregivers and servants to children, not lawgivers or lawmakers, meaning parents were to serve the every need of a child, in a way that formed a secure attachment with a child. Mothers swaddled their infants up to age 3 in their bosom, with older children playing freely in close range to mothers, with fathers giving loving encouragement from a distance, particularly on academic growth concerning the Law. Parents then earned their forgiveness, and those that didn't were put on trial by their children.

The depraved and entitled parents who demand forgiveness will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn and languish in the lake of fire and burning sulfur! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!