Reverent fear: Why loving your child is fearing your child

Many parents hate their children. They say they love their children, emphatically, all the time, even as they discipline them and not themselves. Love for your child is not a hormone or an entitled cord, but a product of fear. It is called pro-social chivalry. Love your child by fearing them and their outspokenness.

Reverent fear and terror of a child is denoted by the Greek root word translated "fear" in reverent format in the Bible, which is spelled out ψοβός (Latin: phobos) and refers to reverent terror and anxiety being struck into the evildoer, including the parent inclined to sin against and offend their child. It is not a paralyzing fear, but a fear that drives one into action, meaning good works for your child, which is love for your child, which is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao). Love is a verb, and refers to being convicted to do good works for children.

Reverent fear is a burning, compelling fear, meaning low-level anxiety that drives the soul and doesn't attack the soul, only eating up at the soul to prompt change of heart, not destroy the body. In the case of parenting, it is a jolt that strikes you when you wrong your child, and is the Holy Spirit telling you to fear your child. It is fear of oneself in relation to one's child, in relation to one's actions towards children, meaning fear of imposing offense or harm onto a child, in a deep way that convicts the heart of an entitled parent to turn away from parental entitlement and abuse, and serve the needs of one's child instead of demanding the opposite.

Christian love is being convicted of one's depraved parent nature out of reverent fear and terror for the every need of one's child, coming to a conclusion that one's mere existence has harmed a child or children, leading to acts of good works and service for children, starting with the avoidance of the slightest of offense towards your child.

The results of Christian love is mutual submission between parent and child. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: phobos) and refers to providing custody, meaning children rest in the provisions of the love and grace of parents, with parents providing for a child's every vulnerable need, especially attachment needs, with children being themselves as separate individuals in relation to children, with children owing nothing in return to parents for their charity, but nonetheless showing gratitude by hearing the voice of their parents, understanding their instructions based on their developmental capacity, leading to heeding the instructions of parents based not on fear of a parent's voice, but reassurance of a parent's voice. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to parental entitlement leading to dereliction of duties, namely provocation of a child to anger. Ultimately, this verse can mean anything counter to the child's needs, applied any way or all ways necessary and applicable, in a way that advances the status of children and righteously stigmatizes the identity of parents...If you are a good parent, you aren't one by name, but by example.

Love for your child is fearing your own parental entitlement in relation to them. All love for a child comes from fear, meaning a prompting fear that melds oneself in the Lord into what God expects of parents. This is reflected in practice in the form of pro-social chivalry. Think the image of holding the door for a child, or serving them at table. This may not be the exact result, but fearful love of one's child will come out in this chivalrous way, particularly with fathers. With mothers, the attachment likely might be closer, with mothers revering their child in a pro-social deified way from up close, and fathers the same from afar. Ultimately, it refers to your child being your best friend. Maybe you fight or bicker a bit as they get older, but you never punish or control them. They are an extension of God to you, meaning Christ extended to you, due to their vulnerability and oppressed state in society. Love admits its ignorance over the state of childhood, which objectively is whatever the child defines it as, for themselves.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let the parents be cast into the ever-burning lake of fire and brimstone, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven!