Pro-social rebellion - Why children have the right to talk back to adults

 Many parents punish their children for "back talk", meaning many times anything other than forced agreement with parents. This is based on our culture's deification of parents as next to God, when they are merely servants of God by way of being His extension. Pro-social rebellion is a key aspect of attachment parenting.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV: 

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in parents, meaning that which allows rebellion in the home, meaning children talking back. Children have the right to order parents as to their every need, and also their every benign want, which counts as an attachment needs. It is feeling safe saying anything to parents, and confiding anything into parents. Children owe nothing in return to parents, but should be convicted anyway, on their own, to listen to their father and their mother.

Rebellion should be a domiciliary peacekeeper, or else a jurisdictional one - wherever the parents are, privately, the child feels safe to be who they are, and question what parents say, but nonetheless modeling after their parents, with parents being a disciplined, controlled example for children. Children have the right to run around and play freely, in the house, on the sidewalk, and they have the right to tell their parents to take them places, like out to eat at restaurants. Think backseat driver. That is the grasp of control children should have over their parents.

Parental love is denoted by the Greek root word translated αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to submission to the every vulnerable need of children, knowing not ever more what it is like to be a child, knowing one's capacity to harm a child, sacrificing for one's child and their every need, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, rendering oneself to a level beneath the child, leading to the parent paying due penance by way of indentured servitude towards a child, being an attendant parent. In reality, this religious statement amounts to the child being the backseat driver, in every aspect of parenting, regarding their needs. "Backseat driver" is how you sum up how gentle parenting looks in real life.

Attachment parenting was the norm in ancient Hebrew culture, meaning parents remained close to their children, in a venting manner where children can say anything to or around their parents, and parents were not allowed to punish children under the Law at all, with punishment only being acceptable in that culture as a legal defense. The Greek root word in vs. 21 translated "provoke...to anger" and is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to the offenses, meaning the torts and damages under Jewish law, with this including assault and battery charges against parents who struck or punished children. Parents instead listened to the child's upset, and children felt safe venting to parents. A 3-year-old's upset was treated the same way as a 1-year-old, meaning with listening and validation, like a sounding board, echoing reassurance to the child, saying "I'm here to listen". Parents were simply servants to their children in ordinary, everyday situations. Fathers were called to be punitive with adult sons rarely, and as an accessory appointed by the Law in the Old Testament. Parents in the New Testament could reel in adult children who went astray, but parents in practice rarely utilized the punitive aspects of the Law even for adult children, instead deeming them prodigal sons and praying for their return to the faith, and the end of their antisocial ways.

The depraved and entitled parents who dishonor their children will not be honored by them in a future context, and will be cast into eternal Hell-fire! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!