Honor thy father and mother - Why this does not mean punishing your child

Many places in society tell children to honor their parents, and listen to their orders. The way it is set up is that children are made slaves to their parents, and their every "binding" command. The fact of the matter is that the Fifth Commandment is a hallmark in the history of children, as an improvement.

It says in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee. 

This is basically a ban on child sacrifice, as before the Ten Commandments, the Canaanite fathers could kill their children at any time, for any reason they saw fit. Under the new Fifth Commandment then, parents had to go through the state, meaning the court system. The Israelite government was a hitman in terms of justice, meaning the religious authorities were for hire based on a group of witnesses that warned the offender, when caught in the act, that they were transgressing, in a way the offender could understand. Usually, these were family members. Once the charges were pressed, every warning beforehand was made relevant, but not before then. In the case of a stubborn and rebellious son, none were executed, as society operated counter to the parent protection laws, and sided with the child, shaming the parents in a pro-social manner for wanting to put their child to death instead of allowing them to be a prodigal son like everyone else. The parents were suspected of being abusers by way of rumor - meaning "he must have learned that behavior from somewhere" - leading to immense pressure leading to parents recanting. The mentality then was that abusive parents deserved to be abused back, and the authorities went along with it as well. That was the attitude in the Early Church towards disobedient children as well - a product of belligerent parents, so why blame the victim? The abusive parents then got their just desserts. Parent abuse as a form of reverse gaslighting was a Hebrew tradition then.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable trust and rest in parents, being able to tell parents everything, able to be yourself around your parents, not fearing punishment, not owing anything in return to parents, yet nonetheless showing gratitude by way of hearing the voice of parents, understanding what they mean in a way reflecting the child's development, and then obeying the reassuring, voice of parents imprinted on by the child. This is a form of mutual submission prompted by Christian love, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to selfless and dutiful submission to the every vulnerable need of children as their enemy, just as mankind is the enemy of God and is to submit to Him, knowing that all adults are guilty for their mere existence in relation to children due to the capacity to inflict harm, and be ignorant of the child's perspective, leading to sacrifice for a child just as Christ sacrificed for His children, rendering oneself beneath the child, devaluing oneself as serving her from a level beneath said child, with the child in place of God, expecting absolutely nothing in return. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to the offenses in the Bible, meaning the torts and damages imposed by the Eighth Commandment, summed up in the New Testament as the slightest of offense taken by a child stemming from parental entitlement, meaning wanting things from children with parental control instincts to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child, denoted by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés).

Attachment parenting was the norm in ancient Jewish culture, with children being swaddled next to mothers until age 3. Children remained close to parents, playing within range of parents, heeding to the voice of parents in a way where the voice of parents reassured children, and put them at ease enough to listen to the instructions of parents. 

Voice imprint is the scientific way to understand childhood submission to parents in the Bible, and it lasts until adulthood. If a parent's voice scares their child, then they really aren't a parent to them, and need to become a pro-social parent instead of being the default antisocial parent that they are. Whenever I even hear a certain set of keys or footstep, I know my mom is here, and I let a sigh of fresh air go through my nostrils. She is an attachment parent. Even as an adult, I get that notion from my mother, and my father now that he has apologized. Obeying the voice of parents comes out of familiarity and reassurance, not punishment or control.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn and rot in the ever-burning lake of fire and brimstone, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!