Pro-social respect, pro-social segregation, pro-social fear - honoring the child the biblical way when speaking to them

 Many parents think they are the ones to gain fearful respect from a child, usually from punishment or control of a child. However, the fact of the matter is that there is zero biblical evidence that punitive parenting is the answer. Pro-social segregation means stay away from children. Even as a parent, you should, by default, treat your child with due distance, and not see them as property or chattel.

Biblical parenting is based on the concept of mutual submission, as denoted in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure rest and surrender in the care, support, and protection of parents, owing absolutely nothing to parents, with parents loving their children, meaning surrendering their every need, as well as their "authority" over children, sacrificing as Christ did for His children, rendering yourself lower than the child, leading to being their attendant and servant, expecting absolutely nothing in return from them...and expecting nothing in return is gratitude. Gratitude is the essence of talking to children. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stir up", meaning stirring up anger or resentment. Ultimately, this word is one of the words that, in this context, refers to legal damages, meaning the slightest of personal slights perceived by the child, coming from entitled intent. Entitlement denotes the Tenth Commandment, and is cross-referenced by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektes) and refers to not only wanting things from a child, but wanting to the point of seeking to impose said want on a child. It is the prideful "I am a good parent/adult" leading to demanding, controlling, punitive, or sexually objectifying attitudes and behavior towards children. Abuse is the damages, including the fear, upset, or discomfort, imposed by this behavior, coloring the entitlement beforehand.

This means, by default, that adults should be silent, and allow children to be loud and rambunctious. The idea is that adults and children are separate, segregated groups in society, which will always be so in a way that shelters children and protects them from all offenses against children, including even the slightest of unwelcome gaze from a sexually entitled adult. Children are also to be segregated from their parents, meaning seen as separate beings from their parents.

I am convicted as an adult not to speak to children, by default, or interact with their person, property, or effects in any way without their consent. Speech or interaction with a child must be on the child's grounds, not mine. There is a difference between formal and informal speech, with the child being the only person having the authority to "break the ice" and give permission for the adult to speak casually with them. Otherwise, speech should show one's adult guilt, meaning looking down, with hands behind your back, appearing shamefaced and understated. I feel a certain distance, meaning a certain reverence, in relation to a child, from their presence, meaning they are small and fragile, and thus I must treat them with the utmost respect. With parents, this means being convicted to go wherever you go, in the form of pro-social ragdoll - you're just their ragdoll, but one that is also a pro-social chauffeur. That's all you are to them, and they are grateful for your servitude, just like I respect and honor. Parenting is not about being proud on one's stool like a king or queen, but being a servant to your child, in an understated way that allows for the child's emotions to be animated and energetic, but mainly towards the parents. Oftentimes, children who are never punished for anything are the quiet, calm children in a public venue, with their parents appearing calm and centered, in a listening way towards children...It is about avoiding damages perceived by the child, as children have the right to gaslight abusive adults using sensory gaslighting, meaning the moment the child feels unsafe around a parent or adult, it is abuse, particularly when the intent is entitled and/or the adult is defensive in being interrogated.

Children are the "least of these", and thus are an extension of God, and thus are the boss of what kind of charity they receive from adults, meaning parents and adults owe nothing to children, even to the level of speech. Children, acting in place of God, shut up adults, and give them a reason to improve their lives, and change for the better. Children, in turn, listen to and obey their parents' instruction as a reward for a parent's good works, not out of fear of punishment. Obedience involves listening and understanding of parent instruction based on secure attachment, meaning children heed the warning and instruction of parents because they trust their parents, and understand instinctively that parents know best for them, and knowing that parents will not punish you for anything. It is often an instinctive reaction to a command from a parent, not questioning the parent, like commonsense. It is like you are driven by an Unseen Force to move along with a parent, and this sort of compliance and cooperation occurs when you relate to your parents on casual terms, and can talk about them about anything. It is no different than doing a favor for a good friend of yours, meaning you just heed instruction because it is the right thing to do.

Respect is earned. The depraved parents and adults who disrespect children will not inherit the Kingdom of God, and will be tormented on their last day, descending into the lake of fire and brimstone, suffering the second death! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!