Many parents punish "senseless" behaviors such as "talking back", carrying on in the store, and so forth. Behavior in children carries a need, often masked by a want.
In punitive homes, the needs of children are often ignored. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:
Children, obey your parents, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.
The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) surrender coming from parents surrendering their authority over children, and becoming best friends with their child. It is a state of rest, borne out of secure attachment. "Provoke...to anger" is translated by the Greek root word ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to legal damages. Damages can be the slightest of personal slights hurled against a child, which is abuse when not reconciled.
Most children act out to get attention. So, why not give it to them, in an appropriate manner? That means spending time with them, strolling through the park, maybe stroll down Penn Street, and you maybe let them show you the way. You might be able to go on road trips. Or, if all else fails monetarily, just sit down with them next you, holding them and giving them attentions.
Attention-seeking behavior is common in various children, of varying degrees of social maturity, but most likely children aged 1-4 and children with disorders such as ADD/ADHD and autism. Give them the attention they need (maybe not the attention they want) and they will listen to you.
Punitive treatment of an attention-seeking problem in a child imposes damages on the child. However, when you treat your child with respect, and allow them space to talk to you, you instill listening and surrender in them, making parents the safest place to rest in their eyes.
Children know what they need, from day one, but a younger child, doesn't know how to express that need without acting out. Also, needs are like a loose knotted rope, meaning wants are intertwined with needs...This is why it is imperative not to punish, or even say "no" all of the time, because you could be shutting out a need of some sort.
Let the parents burn in everlasting Hell-fire!
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