How attachment works

 Many pro-spanking parents think children only have a few basic needs, and that attachment is a luxury. Nope, attachment is a NEED that all children have for their parents, and that their parents should have in a selfless manner for their children. Attachment is about trust.

It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents for this is right. Honour thy father and thy mother; for this is the first commandment with promise, That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to anger, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) refers to secure rest and attachment towards parents, coming from surrender and submission from parents to the child's every vulnerable need. The child, in return to the submission, feels safe telling parents anything, knowing one will not be punished - a surrender based on pro-social rebellion, meaning children are given the right to "talk back" to their parents, and even give parenting advice, and even voice harsh grievances with them. The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to discipline and self-control modeled to a child using co-reglation. The Greek root word translated νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers not to punishment of any kind, bur the figurative rod of correction, which is two rods - the rod of pleasantness and the rod of severity. The rod of pleasantness involves pleasant, yet instructional information, and then, very rarely, setting a negative boundary, such as the word "no" or its various variants. Neither rod really existed in Christian homes then as a tool of punishment.

Attachment is like a frond, meaning one on a fern that attaches itself to a telephone poll, and makes up the parent. No parent is formed good, and all are evil by nature, being the antisocial parents that they are. Some of us control/beg using sexual means, or else have a physical thread running through their attachment frond, and we are pedophiles - we relate to children on our own level, with sexual connotations attached. A child rebels against me in another way - setting healthy boundaries with me, knowing I'll never punish her. It is pragmatically no different than centering one's urges to spank or punish, except that it is easier. I cannot physically get angry at a child - I must always blame someone else.

Let the adult fornicators who violate attachment BURN!