Why child abuse is whatever the child perceives as such

 Many parents believe that they have rights over their children in order to punish them and control them. This setup is based on a false, non-existent "legal defense" that deems certain parental acts of aggression and violence "reasonable force". The argument is that is very hard to define from "simple discipline". God's Law is above the law of the land, and God's Law holds parents to a higher standards.

It says in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stir up" or "exaspirate", meaning causing commotion, in this case in the form of legal damages under the Law, meaning a violation of the Eighth Commandment against theft and damages. What are damages? The slightest of offense against a child, backed up by entitled intent. Entitlement is denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers not only to wanting things from children, to wanting things to the point of seeking to impose on said child, leading to theft/abuse, with "abuse" being a biblical word, denoted by theft, as repeated by the Greek root word πλέπτω (Latin: klepto).

Anything a child perceives as abusive, that is viscerally stressful, threatening, affronting, or alarming. Abuse can be the slightest of personal slight perceived by the child, meaning the child alone. When a child complains about how they are being treated by a parent, the parent must present evidence of pro-social intent, meaning intent that necessitates the infliction of damages, such as setting a boundary or limit. However, if one was setting a boundary or limit, and that was that, they wouldn't need to strike a child or punish a child after verbally correcting them, but would simply state gentle, non-violent boundaries. It says in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to anger, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord

The commandment not to provoke children to anger is denoted by different language (GRK: παροργίζω) but refers to the same concept - damages. The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to discipline and self-control in a parent, passed down through co-regulation. This means parents show, by example, skills related to self-control and self-discipline. The Greek root word translated "admonition" νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the rod of correction as figuratively understood in Christian homes then, as well as Jewish homes, where the rod was two-pronged in terms of visualization, with the longer prong symbolizing encouragement of good conduct and attitudes towards children, in an attachment parenting setting - children were seen as infants up until age 3, and slept next to their mother even longer than that. Actual verbal correction was rare, usually centered around the word "no", and there was no consequences for violating a parental direction. There didn't need to be any, because children trusted their parents, and knew that parents had a reason for setting limits and boundaries that were non-coercive and non-violent in nature, and stayed close

Whatever the child perceives as abuse is indeed such. The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at stake!