Who is responsible in parenting?: Why parents are responsible

 Most parents in this country are abusers of children, in at least one capacity. 94% of parents spank or punish children, and 70% of Americans believe in spanking a child as a form of discipline. 19 states allow corporal punishment in public schools, and every state except Iowa and New Jersey allow corporal punishment in private schools. This is because parents demand responsibility towards children that is unacceptable.

It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and thy mother, as this is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and that thy may live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to receiving care from parents without responsibility back, usually as a part of secure attachment. Parenting in ancient Hebrew culture was attachment-based, and that was the parenting prescribed in Christian churches. The Epistle here was necessary because the Ephesian church had a child abuse problem involving sexualized spanking of children. Jewish law held that parents owed service to their children, but ordered none in return from children, except what was earned from the good, selfless service towards the child, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, paying the ultimate price; parents should be willing to pay the ultimate price.

Parents have the right to judge their child's behavior as healthy or unhealthy, but not "good" or "bad". The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to pleasantness and encouragement for children as the primary thread of judgment, and negative limits and boundaries as a measure to use seldom in parenting, namely the word "no" and its various variants. There are even better words to use than "no", and that is "sorry, but that won't work" in an apologetic voice. Children owe nothing to adults, as we must earn their respect. I want nothing from a child, even if I do, and thus know how I would be in relation to a child - showing my Christian manners, atoning for my depraved nature while treating children with respect. The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to a specific form of discipline, meaning suppression of wants and requests from children, meaning when you are angry or sexually aroused by your child, do the opposite of what you want to do. It is centering ones own emotions, while listening to the child's big emotions with reassurance and validation. Discipline primary should be for parents, not children. Children simply follow along.

Parents are responsible for giving children what they need, and are to submit to the every need of their child, just as Christ submitted to His children, as their enemy, just as mankind is the enemy of God, with parents and similarly charged adults living in a guilty state in relation to children. Parents are to be convicted of their wicked nature, and be of good service to a child, leading to good works, as is the case with Christian love, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao). Love is an action towards a child, not an emotion, and if you harm a child in any way, you never loved them to begin with. Every single adult is guilty in relation to children, and is to love their children by repenting for their abusive and disrespectful treatment of children, as every adult surely has wronged a child in some way.

Let the depraved and entitled adults BURN! Let them suffer the second death, which was prepared for Satan and his angels on the last day. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!