Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.
The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers literally to the slightest of personal slights perceived by the child victim/target, meaning basically anything the child perceives as abuse objectively is. This is evidenced by brain activity in the fight-or-flight and/or sexual centers of the brain (from an adult).
Just because your child is offended doesn't make you an abuser. Abuse of a child requires a certain intent, namely entitled intent, as denoted by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to not simply wanting something from a child, but wanting anything to the point of imposing said want onto a child, and this is what is attached to abuse, and can be perceived initially by the victim. If the defendant gives a clear, logical reason for the behavior or action as a parent, or else apologizes to make amends, the charges are dropped by the child. Abuse comes from entitlement, meaning the drive to control another person, and impose one's way over them, and usually the whole world around them. If you are willing to reassure and validate upset in a child, instead of punish the behavior, you are not an abusive parent, and I don't look down on you when you do, or say that you have, in fact, punished in the past. I just have a parent trauma so strong that depending on how you put it, it's din to read in a post. I feel justified, in fact, when you are crying and I can tell by the text.
This should be the law in Pennsylvania, word for word. We had legal reforms in 2011 where using any force on a child under age 1 is unlawful, whereas 30% of parents still punish children this young, usually when they need a nap. I predict that, as society evolves on this issue, so will the law, and then it will be a criminal offense to punish a child at all.
Many domestic disputes between parents and children, such as shouting or yelling, would be solved within the home, and not by the authorities. Children can be empowered to report, but even then, many either only will after many incidents, and as a teenager. Or, conversely, they may want stability. Reporting child abuse is a very sensitive topic. I do believe in getting the authorities involved, but only using the child's judgment, not my own flawed adult judgment. Many times, the child does not, whereas some really do want intervention from the state, but don't get it. Children have diverse views on how they deal with their abusive parents.
Let the depraved and entitled pro-spanking parents BURN! Let them BURN! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!
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