Gentle parenting - why a pedophile can do it too

Pedophilia s a mental disorder involving sexual attraction to children under age 14 that is preferential in nature. It is a case where a child's age-oriented sexual preferences do not grow up in relation to the child's chronological age. Most people think pedophiles cannot be treated. These people tend to be the type to see "the pedophiles" as an abusers' agency over there, and "when someone here admits to it, we put a bullet in their head". Most people who are understanding are anti-spanking, in my experience.

What is gentle parenting, from a neurological standpoint? Taking your protective instincts as a parent or adult, and turning them in through denial of controlling impulses. It is convicting oneself for any harm you may have done to children, allowing yourself to be convicted by your acts of struggling abuse, the cries or discomfort you see, and quell any defensiveness that you might have to defend your own "rights" society gives you to abuse children...This is what a pedophile needs to do.

What can a young girl saying "Um, what do you want with me", you are struck with the terror and dread of the Lord, shaking and trembling, going to the fence of the establishment, waiting for a summary citation for harassment, grateful for the girl's forgiveness later...But I know not to approach children like that at all.

A pedophile is a sexualized parent, with sexually motivated attachment, and sexually motivated control. Actual sexual motivation, however, is when the adult is planning abuse and defending it. The idea is not to defend the concept of sexually abusing children, but to abhor it. Pedophiles may just like to fantasize as an afterthought, namely of what could be, but that we know it shouldn't be in real life ever. 

Pedophilia is a disorder that I know I have, but it is one of many of my labels. You know it is there, you access it sometimes, but otherwise it isn't an issue. If I think a certain activity could put me at risk - ex. being in a back room with a child I am attracted to - I avoid it. If I think interacting with a specific child will lead to a fixation on the child, I just remain silent and shut up...It isn't something that is a burden, but instead an empowering responsibility to protect children from one's own sin nature. 

I have all the rights in the world for being an adult, yet I shed them, and be submissive to children and their needs and rights, for the child is the authority over her needs and bodily autonomy.

A pedophile can be a gentle parent, and this fact is very much well-known. We in the children's rights community are no longer anti-pedophile, and that is due to a silent witness testifying before the court of children's rights, telling the Truth and nothing but the Truth, about what pedophilia is. Most people seem to get it to some degree, but are silenced by the purity police. Yes, I claim to be one in that crowd, but I police the offenders, not the pedophiles, as most sex offenders are not pedophiles. Most pedophiles are victims of crime, and they are the perfect victim of a peacekeeping stalker, as they may not be able to defend themselves. Most pedophilia is on the surface these days, and the officer would pick up on it and perhaps discriminate. That treatment, while in the precinct, is evil and unjust. Most trauma survivors do want to help, but perceive limited capacity.

We turn the tables on the pro-spanking parents, meaning they are the abusers, not the pedophiles. Pedophiles are their victims. Pedophiles no longer exist as an abuser, but instead a victim. I don't to see them anywhere except in medical research articles, or when referencing a condition. Most child abusers are parents or are parents in loco parentis, so lets focus on that. There are different levels, with sexual abuse being the lowest level, That is why it is easy to just not abuse a child sexually - the tendency is that low that you just know it is wrong, and don't question it most of the time. It is actually easier to restrain pedophilic inclinations than physically violent urges. It is an inclination, meaning it is something you feel inclined to do, yet choose not to because it is wrong. Think looking at a young girl and thinking about how some things "might be nice" but then trashing the thoughts while letting them fly by. That's how you show respect to children as a sexually entitled adult on these issues.

Yep. Times are changing. The first pedophile flipped the scripts, turning the tables on the parents, meaning those who wear tan suits and advocate their "right" to spank or punish. Now, a storm is a brewing, and we will now fight the holy war against the parents, while not bragging about our parent side towards children - because we gentle patents just do our job and don't use glorified titles to make excuses.