Pro-social rebellion - Why this is a biblical tenet in parenting

 Many parents believe that they need to keep children "in control", and keep them down, giving orders backed up by punishment if they are not followed. This is a grand misunderstanding of the biblical context. As an adult, I abdicate. A child can rebel against me, and I encourage it. 

I have no rights in relation to her, and she has every right to demand any need, especially attachment needs, from me. It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to surrender coming from surrender to needs from parents. Parents are to love their children, and lawfully and dutifully being subject to the every need of children, as their enemy, serving said needs as a bondservant or righteous slave, knowing absolutely nothing about what it is like to be a child, expecting absolutely nothing in return from a child. This leads to secure attachment and rest in a child in relation to his or her parents, meaning a safe place where you can talk freely about anything you want, including things most people won't understand, and not be in fear of punishment.

The Greek root word denoting "admonition" is νουθεσια (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to verbally correcting a child, without backing it up with any sort of punishment, with there otherwise being exemplary discipline, in a teaching way, as denoted by the Greek root word παιδεία (Latin: paideia) which refers to discipline. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is παροργιζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages, both momentary and long-term, which ultimately can be whatever the child perceives to be damaging, to the level of din. Child abuse of any kind has two components, guilty intent (mens rea) and guilty action (actus reus) with guilty actions coloring the intent of the parent, regardless, unless they make amends for inflicting such damages and harm on a child. Evidence of child abuse can be a child crying and screaming (actus reus) and a parent forcibly reprimanding or striking them (mens rea). Entitlement is any demand upon a child, meaning instead of asking them to do things in a respectful relationship. Yes, your actions mean that much as a parent. If I don't see you reassuring a child in the store, and instead see you yelling or verbally berating them, I know what you are, and where you are headed. I'm satisfied.

Adults are to teach by example, not punishment and control. Children are allowed to question and even rebel against parents. Pro-social rebellion simply means children are separate from their parents, and can "talk back" to parents. This refers to pro-social pedophilia, ultimately, with such being the fact that parents listening to children leads to children choosing parents to trust and stand by. A child trusts parents as a shelter for their emotion, much like a siphon. A child can share anything with me, and talk to me about anything they like, including resentment or hatred of their parents, and I'm there to listen, as I am able to. Parents should be the ones standing by to listen to their children, just as was done in the Christian churches of the 1st Century.

The depraved and entitled parents will languish in the lake of fire and brimstone, and BURN! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!