Many people have an idea of what a parent should be. Most parents here in America are punitive, believing that they have the right to punish and control their children. Most parents are child abusers, meaning that 94% of parents have physically battered their children. Many parents think control is a necessary part of parenting. It isn't. I am not merely anti-spanking. I'm anti-entitlement, and entitlement in parenting is control. Control should not exist in any relationship without consent, and children are not informed enough to sign such a decree.
The Greek root word denoting entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to the entitled attitude of "I am a good parent, and so I have the right to have control over my child" and refers to not only wanting things to the point of seeking to impose upon said child, leading to theft/abuse. The moment you want something from a child enough to throw a temper tantrum, you are controlling a child, and control in parent-child relationship is grooming, and grooming is child abuse, and child abuse is sin.
It says in Colossians 3:21 KJV:
Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.
The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο and refers, in context, to short-term damages such as the slightest of pain, shame, or defamation stemming from controlling and/or entitled intent. Any control in parenting, then, was considered a form of kidnapping, which meant then grand theft.
A free child has choices. Those choices might be limited depending on the age and developmental level of the child, and when making the wrong choice, is either taught right from wrong or else supervised until they are able to decide right from wrong. When you take away all of a child's choices, and/or punish or reprimand them in any way, that is child abuse...Sometimes you need to restrict a child's movements for his/her safety, but that only involves yanking the child away from the situation - but then comfort and reassure the child. Don't spank or punish the child.
Let the parents burn! All parents who identify. All parents who identify by entitlement or abuse.
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