Most of society sees children very differently that I do. Mere porcelain objects worthy of help and attention, just for sitting there. This societal projection (intended to prevent child abuse) only gets you so far in life. What if the child doesn't want your "help".
What do I project onto a child from a far? Tsk tsk tsk. Folded arm. Mob boss. "You aren't getting past my vulnerability". But, up close, they are real people, and individuals in their own rights. I don't need to project anything onto children. They just are, and are asking nothing of me, and want nothing from me except for me to give them their personal space...They are not a cherished object, to me. I simply cherish them as friends and neighbors. I can't see them any other way. I might objectify them in a swimsuit or bra advertisement, but that's about it.
The Tenth Commandment, in Exodus 20:17 KJV:
Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, his neighbour's manservant, his neighbour's maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor anything that is thy neighbour's
The Greek root word translated "covet" is לחמוד (Latin: lachmod) and refers not only to wanting things from a child, but wanting to the point of seeking out said items in relation to a child, basically forming the intent (men rea) leading to guilty action (actus reus). The Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to the entitled attitude of "I am a good, loving parent, so I have the right to help my child however *I* want". Replace "I" with a child's pronoun, the statement wouldn't be that big of a deal.
Antisocial "help" refers to entitlement by way of projectory imposed needs. It is projecting your personal reality onto a child in a controlling and overbearing way, trying to make them "fit in with my images". It is helping or assisting a child without their stated evidence, preferrably what which can be proven in a divine and/or secular courtroom.
When I see an attractive young girl, I assume she needs or wants nothing from me, because there is no visible, tangible evidence that she simply there just for existing in that Turkey Hill in the summertime, with a one-piece swimsuit. She probably just doesn't feel like changing. I might hold the door for her (to express any limerent emotion), but, then again, she might want to hold it herself, so power to her for standing up for herself (and allowing it to happen in a country that encourages parents and other adults to hate children...Children don't need my help. They haven't asked. As a parent, your children only need the help they ask, in some way, or some form, based on what THEY need (which most always is independent to your needs).
I don't rush in to help a child, with anything. They ask for my help, by way of pro-social uphear, and then pro-social stophand when they've had enough, and are setting a boundary. LET THE PRO-SPANKING PARENTS BURN!
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