Many people think "you should identify as a parent". Yes, you should on my pages, and if you want to be flamed and/or banned, or at least banned. We hate parents here, so don't carry that sign picketing your welfare rights while not caring about your child's rights. I am a pedophile, and thus *I* am responsible. So are you parents, as I am.
Do I really hate myself? I hate my nature, especially my depraved parent nature. All adults are lined up against children with a entitled cord attached to them. Think a begging hand, demanding their rights. Sitting in lines, in waiting rooms, reprimanding your child and treating such a child as subhuman property. They all seem to have one thing in common, "I am a parent". So, I instead say, when interrogated, "I am a pedophile. What do you need to know".
Christian humility in parenting is not so much beating yourself up, and self-loathing, but pro-social self-hatred that leads to emphasizing flaws as a parent, and wanting to emphasize flaws in one's parenting attitudes when talking about oneself, and avoiding talking about one's own interests in relation to children while children are in tow, or anywhere other than time-out, meaning the parent takes time away from the child.
It is an 8-ball submerged in pool water, the pedophile side, in terms of personal disclosure and pro-social honest attitude, shows, and the parent label is completely hidden in the love and grace of parents, whose label should not be seen or heard anywhere. Only the parent themselves should exist in relation to the child.
Most parents aren't pedophiles, but all adults have stripes to wear in relation to children, usually propensity for anger to some degree. Pedophilia is simply propensity to sexual aggression (when the parent/pedophile is antisocial) when the parent is stressed.
Even the label "pedophile" is insignificant, meaning it is only relevant in a small aspect of life that seems big to the pedophile - psychiatric care and parent coaching involving rehabilitating a parent. It is like that, in that when you give a parent advice, they are naturally resistant, and stubborn indeed - but then they take that advice if they are willing. I myself can relate emotionally to this therapy setup.
I am a pedophile, for sure. It is my self-diagnosis, and one of many, but relevant in a child protection setting. The rationale behind bringing it up was full disclosure, meaning others were suspecting me, so I just figured that people needed to hear the truth. I disclosed partially on my page, and fully at ETC. I was listened to both times. You tend to sound like my mom concerning this issue, when speaking in an understandable tone - sex-positive, but only in terms of distant sex education that is an uncomfortable discussion. I try to be honest about my flaws as an adult, as I do not claim to mean well around children, but children and their parents can judge for themselves. I'm one to downplay that kind of praise, or any praise really.
Entitled to nothing from a child, bur grateful for the trust I have gotten over the months/years, asking for nothing more.
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